Scan at 7.5 weeks - 50/50

[Malotkins]

Hi Ladies

I am almost 8 weeks pg following a m/c in May. I have had some early scans at the EPU which have shown some development. I had a scan on Thursday where we hoped to see the fetal pole and h/b, the previous scan was at six weeks and we saw the sac and yolk and it all looked ok. However, on Thursday the fetel pole was there but was only 2.5mm. They couldn't say one way or the other if it was going to be a viable pg and I have to go back on Christmas Eve for another scan. They said it was 50/50. I'm driving myself crazy. I have spent the last day looking online for a glimmer of hope (as you do) but all I can find is this will lead to a natural miscarriage. Has anyone been in a similar situation and everything worked out ok? Can the fetal pole catch up? I have had terrible lower back pain and stomach pains on and off for a few days. I don't know how I am going to wait until the next scan. My husband just doesn't get it and keeps asking why I am so upset and worried. This is our first Christmas as a married couple and I was looking forward to it so much. My MIL is coming up Christmas Eve and my have to meet us at the hospital.

Thanks,

[belgo]

You poor thing - this waiting for the unknown is the worst part.

Scans at seven weeks are not always accurate - there is hope that your pregnancy will be fine, but as you know it could be another miscarriage, no one not even the doctors can predict what will happen. It's totally understandable that you are so upset and worried, you are living on tenterhooks until the next scan. It's also understandable that anyone who hasn't experienced this (ie. your dh) just don't really understand what you are going through.

Look after yourself, I hope it all works out for you.

[Malotkins]

Thanks Belgo.

[kissmummy]

hi there, sorry to hear you are going through this. It must be extra painful, with it being Christmas and i really feel for you.
I can't send you much hope personally (i've been in your situation several times now and it hasn't ended well) but there have been people who've had happy outcomes in your situation. if the hospital said 50/50 then that's probably right....do you have any DCs already? as others have said, it's the waiting that is so absolutely awful. i find it unbearable every time. keep posting if you need support. Is there anyone apart from your DH who you can talk to about this, who might understand better? (eg any friends who've been through a mc?) It is hard for blokes - they are upset too but the experience is different for them

[Malotkins]

Hi,

I'm pretty sure my symptoms have vanished so I don't think it's looking good. I know I didn't o/v late as I had a scan the day I did o/v (for some other reason) and the sonographer could see that it had just happened. I read something earlier today about late implantation so that's what I am hoping for. When I was four weeks there was concern it might be ectopic so I had a scan which showed a gestastional sac but nothing else. I had another scan at 5 weeks which showed the yolk and then last week which showed the small fetal pole and that the sacs had grown. All the time my hormone levels have been increasing. The doctor said that going by what has already happended maybe it's just taking time, I hope I haven't jinxed it. The wait is just awful. It will be two miscarriages in six months and I am 37 so don't really have time on my side. I never, ever thought I would be in this position. Sorry, bit of a self indulgent moan there Anyway, just got to wait a few more days and see what happens I suppose. Hannah x

[kissmummy]

poor you - not long to go now though. you just have to get through tomorrow and then it's the day of your scan, isn't it? symptoms do come and go and it sounds like there is still hope, but i also know you won't want to dare get your hopes up either. i found this waiting agonising - the misery of having some hope, and the dread of being told it's all gone wrong again. i do hope you get a good outcome, but if not, then you will get through it, one day at a time. 37 is not too bad and two consecutive miscarriages are not uncommon. it does get psychologically harder to face each time but if the worst does happen there's every chance you've just been unlucky and will be fine next time. but cross that bridge if it comes - it might not.

[Malotkins]

I've just got home from the hospital where it was confirmed as a delayed miscarriage. I go back next weds for an ERPC. Bah humbug

[PDR]

Malotkins - just read your posts.

Sorry it's not good news for you this time.

I had my first MC the weekend before last and it was absolutely awful.

I was 7 weeks so not far off you.

I hope you have your family around to support you.

I still feel very tearful about the whole thing and not sure when I will be ready to TTC again...

XxX

[kissmummy]

hi there
i just came onto mumsnet to see if you'd posted. so sorry it was bad news - i must say i did fear it would be from reading your initial post. sadly i've been there so many times before myself it all sounded very familiar...
be prepared for a bit of a delayed reaction emotionally - with some of my miscarriages i found it didn't quite feel real for a while after it first happened and i seemed to be doing quite well but then a couple of weeks later i'd feel worse than ever. however, pretty much anything is better than the awful not knowing/waiting thing you've just been through. feel free to email me on [email protected] if you need someone to talk to any time over the next few days - this website might be quite quiet over the christmas period. take care

[Mollyetta]

Hi Malotkins

Sorry to hear your news. Kind of in the same boat. Got pregnant in October (first pregnancy) had brown discharge from 5 weeks, went GP he said nothing to worry about. Then had red big bleed at 6 weeks. Had scan and was convinced I had miscarried, was told I was 6.5 weeks pregnant and they could see heartbeat and everything looked fine. Was totally surprised and elated at this news. Still had brown discharge and then last weekend had another big bleed over the weekend, this was at 11 weeks. Had to go for another scan and was told baby died at 7.5 weeks, a week after the scan when I was told everything normal. I am booked in for a D&C next Wed but I have had significant bleeding from boxing day so not sure if I will still need D&C. It has been an emotional rollercoster and one I would not want to go through again. Not a Christmas I will want to remember.

[Malotkins]

Hi Mollyetta, How are you? Do you need to go in today for the D&C today? I hope you are ok. It certainly has been an emotional Christmas.

I'm sitting here waiting to leave for the hospital and just want to get it over with. Had a bit of a freak out over whether to bring my new dressing gown and slippers or use my old ones. Decided on the old ones as I don't want to "taint" the new. Stupid hey?

I went to the doctors yesterday and she managed to set my mind at rest on a lot of things. She was lovely and has arranged for me to have some blood tests to (hopefully) rule a few things out.

Thanks for everyone's kind words. I can't believe I made it through Christmas without any freak outs in front of anyone. My family didn't really help though; my mum said at one point "don't have kids, they ruin your life" when my brother did a disappearing act and turned up to dinner an hour late. Tact is not her strongest point!

[Mollyetta]

Hi Malotkins

Had scan on Tuesday and sack and foetus still in there. Had D&C earlier today. Feel OK, slight pain but procedure wasn't as bad as expected. Like you just glad it is all over now. Hoping everything went OK with you and we both have better times in 2010.

[Malotkins]

Hi,

Yes, it all went well and I was at home tucked up on the sofat by 6pm. Roll on 2010!

Hannah