Hi ladies,
First I want to say I am so sorry for all your losses... I've never lost a baby so can't even begin to imagine what it's like but I do have two precious sons that I love with all my heart that I cannot imagine being without.
I do have a question... I went to the nursery today to pick up DS1 and was told by nursery staff that the coordinator for the nursery has just lost her baby at 20 weeks and asked if I wanted to sign the card, which of course I did. She's a lovely lady but not a 'friend' iykwim. We've spoken about DS1 of course etc. What makes it really poignant is that I just had DS2 (4 weeks old) and have been going in with him to pick up DS1 and 2 weeks ago, we had a very personal conversation at the entrance where she told me she's 18 weeks pregnant having had 3 miscarriages before that never reached the 12-week point. Also, they learnt that the baby they would have would be very sick and needed a major operation when he/she was born but they just wanted this baby so badly. She said she did not have the heart to go through another pregnancy and if this was going to be their only child, they would be so lucky to have him/her.
I feel so bad that she has now lost this much-wanted baby and they have already been through so much. I feel like I should do something more for her than sign the card but not sure what would be appropriate? The lady who runs the baby room thinks there will be a funeral. If I were to get her something, it would have to go through the nursery. Can anyone help? I just feel so, so desperately sad for her... Thanks.
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What to do for 'friend' who just lost baby at 20 weeks?
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angel1976 · 03/12/2009 20:33
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