having a miscarriage again ...

[redeagle]

hi , im new here so forgive me if im not doing this right . Ive been reading every one s postings and i keep finding myself bursting into tears.. Im currently experiencing my 2nd miscarriage this year .Both miscariages have lasted only 5 weeks before bleeding .I dont understand why ...I alreadty have 3 children and all 3 pregnancies were problem free ...now this.. im sorry if i sound so self pitying but i quess i just feel so so low .... now ive gone and set myself off crying again .....Hormones ...Dont you just love them !!!!

[Bouj]

Hi there, just wanted to offer my support as there isn't many people around at this time of night! I don't have any experience, but am here if you want to chat. xxx

[Nightynight]

redeagle,
are you me! I was in exactly the same situation around 2.5 years ago. 3 children, and 2 miscarriages in one year. I also floated through first 3 pregnancies with no problems.
Had healthy dd2 the following year though. She would probably never have existed if the other 2 unknown little ones hadn't died.

I remember well wondering what I was doing wrong, and believing I would never have the longed for fourth babe.

[throckenholt]

it is awful to have a miscarriage - but just because you have had 2 very early ones probably doesn't mean anything (given that you already have 3 kids). It just means the fertilised egg was not viable - so it never was a "baby".

Be nice to yourself, give yourself time to mourn for what might have been, and then enjoy what you have

[redeagle]

thanks everyone , I didnt get much sleep last night . I had a serious Bad case of the 'Weepies'. I think I must have cried it out of me ..Because I feel much more in controll today. This morning the first thing I did was Give my kids the biggest and longest Hug in ages .They thought their mum had gone a bit loopy..Its really encouraging to hear nightynight that you went on the have number 4. once again thanks all.

[jangus]

hi Redeagle,
I'm so, so sorry for you. It is terrible that you are suffering again.
I'm sure your emotions are all over the place, bloody hormones.
I do hope that you feel stronger in the coming days and that maybe your doctor (?) will be able to give you some support.
Take care of yourself, and keep giving your other 3 big hugs.
XxXj

[petunia]

Hi redeagle
So, so sorry. I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage yesterday at 11 weeks, after 2 normal ones and I've got loads of questions that I know will never get answered. It's true what people say about time being a great healer-even in the short time since yesterday I feel better, but there's also been lots of tears today as well. Just have a good cry when you need to, it's a lot better than bottling it all up. And keep hugging those children- I've found that helps too!

[Mama5]

Dont know if anyone is still here but i am similar. Had 4 relatively easy pg's and four lovely children all quite spaced out 12,10,8 and 2 and then last year (Nov) i misscarried at 9 weeks. Now I am 8 weeks and bleeding.this time they have seen a heartbeat butI am still bleeding and its awful. Feel so selfish cos I already have four but this is what I have always wanted and one miscarriage is horrid enough! Oh I am going to bed to weep. DP does not understand - says I should be more positive!

[Nemo1977]

o hun i can soooo empathise i had 2mcs before i had ds then i had a missed mc [cruelest thing ever as u think nothing is wrong] in dec. I am currently 15wks pg with no problems so even after the mcs things can work out again....Huge hugs to u and take it easy on yourself there is no right or wrong just whatever u feel u need to do

[hester]

redeagle, I am so very sorry that you're going through this. I've only had one miscarriage but it was agony. Two in a row is more bad luck than anyone needs or deserves. Take great care of yourself and ask for all the help you need - you'll find lots of support is available on here.

[bubble99]

Just you make sure that you and your hormones come here to post whenever you feel like it. There's nearly always someone here.

Bubble XXXX