Dear dakota11
I'm so sorry for your loss. What you're experiencing is totally normal - you're grieving, and with grief comes anger. It's not really the hormones, it's more the grief talking. I lost my first baby at 17 weeks and was horribly angry for a very long time, particularly with my sister in law whose baby was born 2 weeks after mine died. I had counselling which really helped. What's important I think is acknowledging that you've lost someone really close, losing a baby is not very different from losing a spouse or parent. Give yourself permission to grieve. I would talk to my partner, explain that your anger is not with him, it's with life in general. I found it helped to remember the baby, I created a "memory box" where I put the scans, cards, etc. I also gave the baby a name. 2 weeks is a very short time. If things don't get better, don't hesitate to go to your GP or the hospital and ask about counselling. It really got me out of my rut - I was getting so angry all the time it was polluting my life. Don't be in too much of a hurry to "get back to normal". It's a terrible loss and a big life change, and you will need time to adapt. Take care. xx


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