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Hi everyone,
This is my first ever time doing this, I've been reading everyones stories over the last couple of weeks and have really gained some comfort and now feel about ready to share my story. I was coming up for my 12week dating scan, I reached 11 weeks and after the midwife booking in appt got really excited and we started to tell family and friend, we said that we would wait as we previously had m/c at 8 weeks 7 months previously but felt that we were now reaching the 'safe' time so started to tell people. The day before my scan I started some brownish spotting, I knew that something was wrong and was so scared it was happening again! The next morning we had the dating scan and worst fears confirmed, no heartbeat and only measured about 9 weeks 2 days. I decided to go for natural and not d&c as I had natural before and it wasn't too bad apart from the emotional side it was really just like having a really bad period. This time was totally different, pain like really bad contractions lots of clots and bright red blood. One night the bleeding was so bad I had to go to a&e as it was coming out like someone had turned a tap on and it wouldn't stop!! Was so scary. Everything turned out ok and was sent home after a few hours of observation to carry on with natural m/c. I had my follow up scan which was exactly 2 weeks after the first scan and it looks like everything has come away. To top it all off it was my birthday yesterday and none of my so called friends contacted me, I don't think I'm coping very well, my DH has been my rock but I don't have anyone to talk to about it that understands my freinds don't know what to say to me so therefore don't say anything which wouldn't normally bother me but at the moment feel a bit of an emotional reck!!
Anyway, hope my story may in someway help someone else.
Coxy x
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Missed miscarriage at 12 weeks |
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Hey there Jules - good to hear from you.
Finally stopped bleeding the other day - small cheer from me when this happened. Now over 5 weeks since it all happened, seems like a blur sometimes and horribly clear at other times.
Must admit not planning to wait for AF before TTC, bit like you if it happens then great if not then at least I'll know my dates
Fingers crossed all goes well for you this time and I don't think you are being too optimistic to expect a period.
Hope everyone else is doing well and as Jules said enjoy the sunshine!
Finally stopped bleeding the other day - small cheer from me when this happened. Now over 5 weeks since it all happened, seems like a blur sometimes and horribly clear at other times.
Must admit not planning to wait for AF before TTC, bit like you if it happens then great if not then at least I'll know my dates
Fingers crossed all goes well for you this time and I don't think you are being too optimistic to expect a period.
Hope everyone else is doing well and as Jules said enjoy the sunshine!
Starkadder
its been about 4 weeks since my miscarraige- am i being optimistic that i am expecting a period??
My cycle is not iregular but varies in the days- - 31.32.32 etc
I want to wait but i am getting inpatient- - and we have er had some "accidents" were we didnt exactly use any protection - i just thought well if it happens it happens- - but i dont even know if im ovulating or not??
What to do?? im scared it will not come back.
Polar bear- how are you feeling now?? things getting back to normal?
temm09? you? you ok ??
its been about 4 weeks since my miscarraige- am i being optimistic that i am expecting a period??
My cycle is not iregular but varies in the days- - 31.32.32 etc
I want to wait but i am getting inpatient- - and we have er had some "accidents" were we didnt exactly use any protection - i just thought well if it happens it happens- - but i dont even know if im ovulating or not??
What to do?? im scared it will not come back.
Polar bear- how are you feeling now?? things getting back to normal?
temm09? you? you ok ??
Hi girls
how is everyone on this thread?
I hope everyone is getting better both mentally and physically.
I cant beleive its been a month already since my misfortune. I cant beleive time has flown so quickly.
has it been like that for others?
And for the girls who have been through this recently- - time will go and heal.
have a good weekend people. The sun is shining.
how is everyone on this thread?
I hope everyone is getting better both mentally and physically.
I cant beleive its been a month already since my misfortune. I cant beleive time has flown so quickly.
has it been like that for others?
And for the girls who have been through this recently- - time will go and heal.
have a good weekend people. The sun is shining.
It took about 6 - 8 weeks for me time for me to get period back the first time I had a MC. My cycle is weird and irregular though anyway.
The second time it took...er...about 2 years..! Since I did not wait to get pregnant and then had my lovely DS, and then was breastfeeding.
I think the waiting 2-3 cycles thing is unnecessary. Only issue if you don't wait is that you might not realise you're pregnant since you won't be back in your normal cycle yet.
The second time it took...er...about 2 years..! Since I did not wait to get pregnant and then had my lovely DS, and then was breastfeeding.
I think the waiting 2-3 cycles thing is unnecessary. Only issue if you don't wait is that you might not realise you're pregnant since you won't be back in your normal cycle yet.
I will have to quiz my Mother about the whole retroverted uterus thing again, see if its just a midwifes tale thing or not.
No AF has not returned yet but then again I am still bleeding following the EPRC. Not sure how much longer it supposed to go on for really. Not heavy but tis there nonetheless and annoying.
Not sure about this waiting 2-3 cycles business - be over the hill by the time I can TTC again!
x
No AF has not returned yet but then again I am still bleeding following the EPRC. Not sure how much longer it supposed to go on for really. Not heavy but tis there nonetheless and annoying.
Not sure about this waiting 2-3 cycles business - be over the hill by the time I can TTC again!
x
evening ladies!
well we all have to be brave and give off good vibes - if we all sat here moping round-we would feel shit! have have to go through our process and deal with it and help others heal while we are at it.
We all have to get back on our feet and all else will follow.
Try to not look back to the past, worry about the future, ..its better to concentrate on the here and now which is most important.
Umm retroverted Uterus - - - to come to think of it polar bear- i rarely get period pains- but have a very awful back problem- flares up now and then- not at any particular time but when it does- it kills! I have been to physio and had consultants look at my back- - its called a weak back and i need to do excercises- - not one dr has said it cd be down to a funny womb?????retrovert groups ...ummmm
Polar bear = have your periods returned?? im waiting for mine- - can any of you ladies who have been through this before tell me how long your periods were- - im just waiting for one so we can try again. but drs said wait at least 2-3 cycles. i dont wanna wait that long!
anyway lots of positive vibes to all of you ladies!
well we all have to be brave and give off good vibes - if we all sat here moping round-we would feel shit! have have to go through our process and deal with it and help others heal while we are at it.
We all have to get back on our feet and all else will follow.
Try to not look back to the past, worry about the future, ..its better to concentrate on the here and now which is most important.
Umm retroverted Uterus - - - to come to think of it polar bear- i rarely get period pains- but have a very awful back problem- flares up now and then- not at any particular time but when it does- it kills! I have been to physio and had consultants look at my back- - its called a weak back and i need to do excercises- - not one dr has said it cd be down to a funny womb?????retrovert groups ...ummmm
Polar bear = have your periods returned?? im waiting for mine- - can any of you ladies who have been through this before tell me how long your periods were- - im just waiting for one so we can try again. but drs said wait at least 2-3 cycles. i dont wanna wait that long!
anyway lots of positive vibes to all of you ladies!
Thanks again all I am rather impressed that I sound positive 
The thread I started asking about other people who had successfully had one baby but also had recurrent miscarriages has helped too. Lots of positive stories on there.
here
I am rather impressed that I sound positive The thread I started asking about other people who had successfully had one baby but also had recurrent miscarriages has helped too. Lots of positive stories on there.
here
Wow, everyone is sounding so positive and accepting and brave. Well done ladies
I have had a bit more time to get back to 'normal' since my MC was at the end of May, but my body is still a bit messed up and I don't seem to have ovulated this month. Have bought a Clearblue Fertility Monitor and hoping that things will normalise soon and I will have clearer idea of what's going on and will be successful at TTC! But there are ongoing lessons in patience and accepting that this is all beyong our control.
Jules - funny! The more the merrier!!!
Starkadder and PolarBear - we are ALL gatecrashers!
Starkadder, thanks for the positive and encouraging thoughts. It's so admirable since you have had three MCs now.
WispyLady and MishMash - hope those black clouds are lifting for you both.
lots of love xx
I have had a bit more time to get back to 'normal' since my MC was at the end of May, but my body is still a bit messed up and I don't seem to have ovulated this month. Have bought a Clearblue Fertility Monitor and hoping that things will normalise soon and I will have clearer idea of what's going on and will be successful at TTC! But there are ongoing lessons in patience and accepting that this is all beyong our control.
Jules - funny! The more the merrier!!!
Starkadder and PolarBear - we are ALL gatecrashers!
Starkadder, thanks for the positive and encouraging thoughts. It's so admirable since you have had three MCs now.
WispyLady and MishMash - hope those black clouds are lifting for you both.
lots of love xx
Morning everyone.
Glad all is getting better with you Jules, good to hear you are moving on and are back at work ok.
I will trust the process as I do want to have a baby but just know that I will be apprehensive for the whole time!
Starkadder - you sound so positive, I like your viewpoint - lets go with those statistics!!
My scan said I had a retroverted uterus as well (maybe we should form a club here!). My Mum (ex-midwife) said it was just that it laid more towards the back I think which is why I had back ache as part of my PMT. I think if its the other way around you get stomach pains.
Lots of love and positive thoughts all round.
Glad all is getting better with you Jules, good to hear you are moving on and are back at work ok.
I will trust the process as I do want to have a baby but just know that I will be apprehensive for the whole time!
Starkadder - you sound so positive, I like your viewpoint - lets go with those statistics!!
My scan said I had a retroverted uterus as well (maybe we should form a club here!). My Mum (ex-midwife) said it was just that it laid more towards the back I think which is why I had back ache as part of my PMT. I think if its the other way around you get stomach pains.
Lots of love and positive thoughts all round.
opps = diddnt mean more the merrier in that sense- - - i was trying to be welcomming!!!
i wdnt wish this on anyone!
but no one should be shy joining- its given be so much help this tread and the wonderfull ple!
Polar bear- its understanding to be scared it will happen again = but we cnat live in fear- - we just have to Trust the process and beleive. Be strong. HOpe the bleeding goes away soon. ( mine went withing a week- but the major bleeding stopped a few days later too- so not sure why thta happend to me! i guess we all different !
night hunss
z
i wdnt wish this on anyone!
but no one should be shy joining- its given be so much help this tread and the wonderfull ple!
Polar bear- its understanding to be scared it will happen again = but we cnat live in fear- - we just have to Trust the process and beleive. Be strong. HOpe the bleeding goes away soon. ( mine went withing a week- but the major bleeding stopped a few days later too- so not sure why thta happend to me! i guess we all different !
night hunss
z
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