Dear Doggus , i was really interested in your story and am glad you got some cyber friends with FAB advice, how are you now. I am in my second week after mc, bled night before the scan and baby had died at 8 weeks i think she said, my head was a bit of a shed, thats the thing you dont get to find out stuff cos your mind goes into a lost place, i couldnt remember getting appointmwent card for next scan date etc and got all mixed up the following week. I had massive headaches, wept alot, greived, bled more blood than i thought was possible, my husband just kept saying 'dont worry its not circulatory'..then when i passed lo , it was similar to yourself and i too have put lo in rose bush pot by back door, which i attend to now and then, even had thoughts about digging it back up to check it...strange but then mc is strange but also i feel mc becomes part of nature also, it really is a clever body that says 'no not this time', however it is so tragic and shocking. I have found its like jumping out a plane for the first timealone, not that i have domne it, but with none of the exhilaraion just the whire fear and the iscolation and unknown and wondering if you will live through it...i landed and im ok now but what a flippin fall...i hope you doing ok and thankyou for the inventor of the internet who got it right when it comes to things like this because mc is just not on the lips of many folk in everyday life. Love to you and hope you feeling bit better x

Hi everyone, thank you for asking. I am feeling much better physically. The GP did a quick exam and said everything seems OK.

It will take a lot longer mentally obviously but at least my body is on the mend.

Thank you all so much for your support - you are all really lovely people and I could not have got through without you.

Hey doggus. Just wondered how you got on at the GP.

I hope you're OK.

Good luck today doggus, hope all goes smoothly.

Hello all of you. alistair - I love fucknugget, thank you, will use it!

Ds is on the mend, thank God, so am getting some rest. I am looking forward to seeing the GP tomorrow, apparently they can palpate your tummy to see if it is back to normal. I passed a load more tissue last night with cramps so I MUST be near the end of it.

Hi doggus, just wanted to check in with you.

Have been thinking about you and your family today.

Am really sad for you but glad that the physical side is calming down.

I found saying "fucknugget" under my breath everytime someone said something stupid and insensitive helped.

doggus, so sorry to hear you are going thru this I had a similar experience with a mmc 2 years ago and it is one of the most horrific experiences of my life (and i have been thru a lot), MN helped me thru and when i became unexpectedly pregnant with DS3, the knicker checkers were amazing.

I am sorry that you have had negatve comments. We had someone say "oh these things just happen" she is a trainee midwife !!

Take your time and don't have any expectations of yourself. Be gentle on yourself too xx

oh doggus, what a shame, i'm so sorry. peace and love.

doggus, just waned to see how you were lovely

I'm glad things have settled down a bit pyshically.

And as lulu says, grieve as much as you need, and take as long as you need before getting back to work or normal. We're all different and need to take it at it's own pace.

sorry for your stupid friends, but sometimes people can be horrible insensitive, although I'm sure they were only tryin g to say the right thing.

Good Luck at the docs on Monday and let us know how you are doing.

Glad you have had a quieter day Doggus. Sorry that you've received some daft comments already, ignoring it is the best bet - just remember these comments are usually from people who have no idea what it's like.

Hope that you have an uneventful night now. Please continue being extra gentle with yourself, eat well, rest well. x