I'm afraid I really need a moan tonight. I had a mmc in early December, and coped pretty well with it, but now we're back to ttc I'm falling apart . I was going to post on conception board, but I don't want to depress them all.
I know I'm asking rhetorical questions here, which have been asked in desperation many times, but I just feel I need to get this stuff off my chest and I've no friends who have been through this before. Do you ever feel like the world is conspiring against you? I conceived no problems the first time, but with a very difficult baby (reflux, multiple intolerances), an emcs, prolonged SPD and a knackered DH it took us a while to come round to thinking about #2. DH is is slow to commit to things anyway, so I feel it has been an uphill struggle on that front to allow himself to actually admit he wants another one. Meanwhile friends everywhere seem to be popping sprogs merrily.
So, we began last May and I had a v early mc in July. Followed by two chemical pregnancies. Followed by my mmc in December. Each time, I've had to ask for DH's cooperation for BD. He generally wants it when I have my period or am still bleeding after mc, but never seems to at ov time. In fact, I swear at least every other month he has a virus which puts him in bear-with-a-sore-head mode, which he is in at the moment.
I'm desperate to conceive again, and also keen that I don't have another December baby (dd is dec, so is DH and I'm late Nov). I'm worried about age gaps, time ticking on and viable eggs. I'm worried about my cycle (seemed to ov at expected time after mmc, but this month I'm on CD19 and still don't appear to have ov'd), and I'm worried about my mental health. Is this just post mc hormones? How long did it take you kind souls to feel balanced again? I thought I was, but this ov business and added stress of uncooperative DH is driving me to question my sanity. Is it normal to fear the worst for your fertility yet know that the statistics speak for themselves? I just can't seem to rationalise my hormones and my head at the moment.
Sorry for the self-indulgent rant.
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banjaxed · 24/01/2009 20:12
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