2 mcs & terrified at trying again.

[beanie35]

I had 2 mcs in the space of 8 months nearly a year ago. I mc naturally at home, both were missed mcs, that stopped growing at 6-8 weeks. My hb was working away both times, so I had to cope with it all on my own and as Im sure most you know, it is a terribly frightening and upsetting experience. Anyway, I have given myself a long time to recover, but I still get days when Im very down about it all. My husband doesn't work away now, and is desperate for us to try again. Im so scared it will happen again, does anyone else feel like this??

[lobeov]

Hello Beanie35, the same thing happend to me i have 2 MC and my husband wants to start trying again.I'm not ready at this time my mcs just happend, but thinks that odds are in your favor you have 80% chances that your prengnancy will be succesful.

Good luck to you!!!

[CrackopentheBaileys]

I just want to send you this message of hope, as I know what a hard time you are having right now.

I miscarried in nov 06 and jan 07, and for my own reasons we continued to try. I fell pg again in April 07, and in Jan 08 I had my beautiful dd.

It was not an easy pregnancy, I had severe sickness, spotting (so scary!) and SPD, but I would do it all again in a heartbeat if I had to.

I was so worried that there was something wrong with me, and had all these thoughts about not being able to conceive again. But the doctors were great, and assured me that there is no need for investigation until there are 3 mc's in a row.

I hope that you can take some strength from this, and I wish you all the very best

[belgo]

I had two miscarriages in 2007. I just had to try again, even though emotionally I know I would not have coped very well with a third miscarriage. I was lucky, and concieved my son very quickly. I was worried throughout the pregnancy, but I got through it somehow.

I have a friend who also had two miscarriages. She had a course of acupuncture before trying for another baby. She has had a successful pregnancy since.

I have also known people to have reflexology to help them have a successful pregnancy.

[catweazle]

I had 2 mmc in a similar timeframe to yours and can understand your not wanting to put yourself through it again. We already had grown up children and while we were trying to decide whether or not to try again I got pg and our DD was born exactly a year after the EDC of the first lost pgcy.

I was convinced I'd miscarry again, esp when I had to have amnio, but all was fine. I believe that even after 2 mc the odds of a successful pgcy are still high.

[littleboyblue]

beanie completely understandable. I had 2 mc before I had a full-term pregnancy. It is scary, and soul destroying. I remember feeling like such a failure it was the most horrible time.
When I fell pg for the third time, I was a complete mess, everytime I thought about it or spoke about it I would just break down and cry, the thought of losing another baby was just unbearble, I was going back and forth to the toilet every 15 minutes for god knows how long and tbh a part of me was hoping to see blood or some sign of mc so I could stop worrying and torturing myself about it.
I now have a wonderfully perfect 17 month old son who brings me so much joy. I look at him and think if the previous pregnancies had gone full term, I wouldn't have him iyswim. I have mc since having ds but am now due to give birth to our 2nd child in 3 weeks and part of me feels like after going through all of this, I really deserve my children (not saying that those who are lucky enough to nver go through this odn't, but you know what I mean)
So because you have lost 2 doesn't mean you won't be successful next time, I'm sure your time will come.
If my first had gone all the way, that child (I think a girl) would be 5 now, and I still sometimes think what they would have been like and take a minute on the due dates. I don't think it's anything you can get over, but you can move on.
Try again when you are ready, but maybe speak to your gp about your fears too, mine have been quite understanding and have given me scans at 7 weeks to check for heartbeat.
I also found that at the time with each mc, writing a letter to the baby helped me to grieve for my loss and it did really good for me to get my feelings down on paper
Hope this helps, good luck

[lobeov]

Hello how is everybody today?

[pud1]

i had 2 mc before my dd. i was terrified of getting pg again as i thought that 3 mc must mean a problem. it then took me 1 year to conceive my dd and i remember the fear through out. i havent any advice but really hope it works out for you. i think that my history has made my dd all the more special to me. good luck x

[lobeov]

Thank you pud, that gives me hope.

[beanie35]

Thank you all for your lovely stories, they have given me a more positive outlook on this terribly difficult situation. Im so glad that for many of you something wonderful came your way after your heartaches. love and thanks to you all.