I've been very on and off the idea of having a 3rd child (i.e. its dominated my thoughts for about a year) but during an on phase earlier this year I conceived and was delighted. Unfortunately I miscarried at 5 weeks and was gutted but thought at the time that it showed that it was what we really wanted. Since then I've been getting pretty obsessed about TTC and disappointed each month when its not happened. When I really look at it I wonder if part of my disappointment is that I've not got pregnant rather than I'm closer to having a third child( as having 3 really terrifies me). Its not that I'm scared of hard work but for many reasons I now think we should stop TTC and be grateful and enjoy our 2 lovely children.
However since my miscarriage I get quite upset when I hear of friends who are pregnant and find talking to one whose due date was the same as mine really hard. There will be more of these challenges ahead too.
I am concerned that as I did conceive a child and then lost it will I really come to regret not having a 3rd? Unfortunately I am the sort of person that dwells on things and worries. I'm not sure if there'll be anyone on this board in the same boat as me, maybe I should post it on another board?
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Thinging of giving up ttc no 3 after miscarriage - will I regret it?
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barlow · 24/09/2008 22:41
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