Struggling to carry on

[user1480238312]

Hi,

After having medical management of a MMC two weeks ago I am really struggling to get on with things. I don't want to get out of bed some days, and am really struggling to eat or sleep. With the stress of waiting a week for the MMC to be confirmed, over the last 3 weeks I have lost 1st!

In the last two weeks 4 people I know have announced their pregnancies. One is due a few weeks before I was, two the day before I was, and one the day after. Seeing their scan pictures and hearing them talk about how they heard the heart beat... it's killing me.

I want to try and get back to normal (or something very close at least) but every tiny thing just feels like a huge hurdle at the moment..

Any advise!?

[jinglebellmel]

So sorry for your loss. I've had 2 miscarriages recently so can absolutely relate to the feeling of not wanting to get out of bed - in fact I think I started a very similar thread a few months back and had some helpful advice.

It's still very early for you and its normal to be feeling totally crap, for me it was something I just had to get through day by day and it eventually started to feel a bit better. As for the pregnancy announcements, they really sting. I congratulate the person and then hide their post. I hide anything that gives me that punch in the stomach feeling. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe worth a visit to the GP to discuss how much it's effecting you and see what help they can offer?

It's a shit time, do what you have to, whether that be laying in bed all day or carrying on as normal, there's no right way to deal with it.

[JCleRoux]

I'm so sorry for your loss. From experience the first few weeks are difficult. Did they not offer you some counselling at your local hospital where were being treated. I was already going to therapy before my MMC and can honestly say the sessions helped me grieve and work through everything. It is absolutely normal to feel sad and a little jealous when you see people with growing baby bumps and over time you will be able to deal with it a bit more

Take care of yourself.