Does anyone have any words of advice? TMI too

(10 Posts)
boxingclever Thu 24-Nov-16 12:25:22

Hi everyone.

Apologies in advance if I have posted this in the wrong area. I tested positive last Thurs, and calculated my due date to be around 6 weeks or so, so I'd be 7 today. On Monday, I started to spot brown discharge. This tapered off on Tuesday, but came back yesterday. I called into my GP surgery, to ask for advice and spoke to the nurse there who said to just wait and see what happens, that I was to take it easy and not do cartwheels down the street.

I've gotten up this morning, and although the spotting isn't there when I wipe, it is there if I insert some loo roll a little bit. It's a bit darker, with stringy bits. I have no cramping, just a bit of back ache yesterday which has eased off; I don't tend to get lots of pregnancy symptoms either but now I'm looking for them, I can't think that they are there iyswim?

I have a 2 year old and a 6 year old and I am trying so hard to stay positive but I'm sitting here crying as I think it's coming to an end. Does anyone have any advice? The surgery yesterday weren't helpful tbh. I haven't told anyone other than DH about the pregnancy, but it's taking up all of my concentration. I had a mc around 3 years ago, but I can't remember how it started as I think my brain has shut it out (not healthy, I guess) What I can remember was that the last mc pretty much started with spotting which got heavier, then withing 24 hours a scan revealed I had mc'd. My husband keeps telling me not to worry, but it's killing me. I don't know whether to call the dr's back and tell them it's still there, and to be honest I can't really even tell if it's getting worse or better, as I'm in such a state.

Again, I'm really sorry if I have posted this in the wrong place, I just didn't know where else to put it. I feel really alone with this at the minute, it's just awful. We home educate too, so the kids are around all the time, and trying to stay 'normal' is REALLY difficult.

Sorry for the rambling post, and for the fact that it's not really coherent, I just need some advice.

LottieL Thu 24-Nov-16 12:37:33

There isn't really any advice that I can give you but I'm here to hand hold and wish the best.
Earlier this year I had a miscarriage that started in spotting brown, then a day later became fresh red blood and cramping and I passed the pregnancy. Scans confirmed the next day.

I am pregnant again and this time I had brown spotting for a week or so close to the time I would have been due a period - never enough to soak a pad but when I wiped. It came to nothing and the pregnancy progressed just fine.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is it can go both ways unfortunately but try not to lose hope as there's a good a chance it's fine than not.

Can you self refer to an early pregnancy unit in your area?

Sorry you are stressed and worried x

boxingclever Thu 24-Nov-16 15:45:13

Thanks so much for your reply Lottie. It's great to hear from someone who has been through similar. I think I am going insane to be honest. The discharge is only really there when I wipe now and again, it's not warranting a pad or liner. I just remember the last mc being pretty quick, from start to finish about 24-36 hours.

OhPuddleducks Thu 24-Nov-16 15:55:45

I had this with DD at about 6 wks. My bleeding sounds very similar to yours - it was just a little bit when I wiped but when the GP gave me an initial internal exam it was fresh blood and a bit stringy (and more than I thought would be there). I got such a shock when I saw it. They offered me an early scan which identified a blood clot that was leaking. The sonographer at the time wasn't very positive and said the clot could pull the fetus out but that she would book me for another scan in a couple of weeks (when I would be 8 weeks) and when I went again there was a heartbeat and the clot was resolving. Can you push for an early scan?

emsler Thu 24-Nov-16 16:22:13

I did so, so, so much research into this when I was going through something similar and honestly, it really does seem like there's a 50/50 split. Sometimes bleeding is the start of a miscarriage and sometimes it's absolutely nothing. On the positive side, if the bleeding is dark and only when you wipe, that suggests it's a) old blood and b) not very heavy. Have you had sex recently? It could easily be just a bit of old blood dislodged from your cervix.

I'd say if you're 7 weeks, get to your local EPU and have a scan for reassurance - you may even be able to see the heartbeat. Will be thinking of you, OP/

Phoenix76 Thu 24-Nov-16 16:45:34

I had very similar with dd2. I had the brown stringy stuff and spotted and my heart sank and I had a good old cry. It turned out to be the remains of implantation bleeding. Then at just over 12 weeks I had bright red blood, quite a lot, and had an emergency scan and this time I thought it was definitely over and was a quivering wreck at the hospital but again all was fine they said they thought it was the placenta moving about. Luckily she's a very healthy 9 month old. It's a very scary time and I really feel for you, I really hope all turns out well for you, the hospital did say it's very common in pregnancy and usually all ends well but that doesn't help to hear that. We'll be thinking of you x

boxingclever Thu 24-Nov-16 17:11:45

Thank you all so so much for your posts. I managed to see the duty go this evening, as you can't self refer to EPU here sadly. She was brilliant, and called through for scan appt but the person who makes the appointments had gone home so I have to wait until tomorrow for them to call me and see when I can get a scan. I had some brown spotting followed with bright red bleeding in my first (ds's) pregnancy, but also had a mc starting with brown blood so I can't really tell. It's ripping me to bits, I feel like I don't really have any symptoms anymore either although I don't know if that's because I'm miscarrying or if I am being neurotic and not seeing /feeling them. Only time will tell I guess.

Thank you all again for listening, and for the advice x

Wombletor Fri 25-Nov-16 09:31:10

Hi
I am sorry you are in this situation. I've experienced this at the beginning of my pregnancy and for me it was a bad sign. I've been scanned weekly and the pregnancy was slow to progress, never as it should be. Consequently its over for me. However, lots of women experience spotting and its normal and nothing to worry about, but for me it was a warning. I hope you get an appt at epu, and if all is well, ask for another review in 2 weeks time to be certain, that way you can manage things better.
I'm sorry that my story isn't reassuring, I just think that there are more happy endings on the internet which can give you false hope, and I think its best to see spotting as a warning as opposed to being normal.

Take care, I hope everything is OK for you xx

TurquoiseDress Fri 25-Nov-16 17:51:39

Sorry to hear this OP, I hope all does work out ok for you.

My missed miscarriage started out with brown spotting (this was the day before my dating scan, I was almost 13 weeks) and the morning of my scan I began to bleed like a period.

For some reason, when I saw the brown spotting, I had such a sinking feeling. When the blood came the next day I just knew it was game over, at the scan I think my husband was more shocked than me as in my head the worst had already happened- and I was proved right.

There is really no telling how things will turn out, but only time will tell and at least one or two scans at the early pregnancy unit.

Good luck x

Sugarplum234 Wed 07-Dec-16 22:21:22

Hi, I'm new to the site. I'm almost 6wks pregnant. I have had brown discharge also when I wipe (tmi) sorry. I've also had a tiny bit of dark red spotting a couple of times. I'm very lucky in so much my GP has been brilliant. I had a mmc which began in early July and didn't end until the beginning of august having had pessaries and x2 d&c with I'v antibiotics. I'm terrified! My GP has arranged an early scan for me for Friday but has warned it may be too early to see anything. I'm not in pain but feel uncomfortable like before. She has done blood tests which have both showed rising hoc levels. She has said she's not concerned and to try to stay calm, rest and positive. It's difficult. Sorry for rambling. Really just wanted to say my thoughts are with you and understand.

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