Seeking reassurance/advice [sad]

(6 Posts)
DrMum83 Mon 26-Sep-16 13:15:24

I'm looking for. what you can't give me but here goes...

I'm terrified I won't have another baby. I'm v lucky, I had one lovely beautiful 20 month old DD. I know there's women who aren't as lucky as me but my longing for another is overwhelming.

I miscarried just before my DD was conceived at 6 weeks (MMC) and had a mmc in April at 7+4 and this morning, learned I'm having a 3rd mmc around 8 weeks.

My head is mashed. I've got a referral to a specialist but I just don't know what to do/say, I just feel so mixed up. This is something that happens to others, not me.

I guess I'm posting to hear your experiences, my main queries are, (emotional healing aside), do I crack on ttc once I've had the d&c? I don't know if I should wait until I'm seen at the recurrent mc clinic first? We tend to get pregnant very quickly.

Given I've had my DD, are my odds of a healthy pregnancy still reasonably high? Is this likely bad luck or could I have an underlying cause?

I'm sorry to those of you out there going through this and worse, it really is horrendously cruel.

Thanks

DrMum83 Mon 26-Sep-16 13:26:59

Didn't want the thread title to look like I was warning you that this was a sad story, was hoping it would have inserted a sad face, that's all! (All bloody sad stories here)

Catgirl83 Wed 28-Sep-16 20:28:47

OP, I didn't want to read and run. I have no advice but I'm so sorry you have been through such traumatic experiences.

GiddyOnZackHunt Wed 28-Sep-16 20:31:44

Some of the recurrent mc tests need to be done when you aren't pregnant I think. Might be best to check once your referral is done.
flowers

Crasterwaves Wed 28-Sep-16 20:40:01

I am so sorry to hear about your lost pregnancies. I am sending you some flowers and an un mn hug.

I have also had mmc and can very much empathise with a lot of what you are saying. I read a book about recurrent Mc by Lesley Reagan one of the specialists in the area and she said that even if you've had recurrent Mc your chances of getting pg and going to term are quite high (over 75% iirc). I think having had a previous successful pg as you have must give you a higher chance as you say.

I was on a recurrent Mc thread on here for a while which was a great support with testing and a very high percentage of those on there with me ultimately had a pg that went to term.

Crasterwaves Wed 28-Sep-16 20:41:46

This thread may be a good place to post for support www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2461442-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-30-Support-for-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?pg=29&order=

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