Miscarried, devastated

(5 Posts)
C4Envelope Sun 18-Sep-16 23:50:55

Thought i would read a few threads and it has honestly given me some comfort that other women go through this and get through this. As sad and tragic as it is.
I miscarried yesterday morning, I held the sac in my hand and knew. I didnt know I was pregnant. I have a 9month old and DH and I would have been delighted to welcome another child. We just didnt know. I Feel guilty as if I have cheated this ungrown, unborn child for not knowing she was in there. I say she beacuase I dreamt of birthing a baby girl a few days ago. The obstetrician said that the feotus had stopped developing a few days ago at least hence no positive on urine test.
I took in my little tiny sac and handed it over and the obstetrician took one look and said yesbyou have miscarried. I never got to say goodbye, little one was put in a sample pot and taken away. I cant handle this and I was so early on. I know the fear will fade but right now i can't imagine the sadness and loss again. My heart is breaking not only for my family and my little baby but for every family out there who has known loss. I am so truly truly sorry.
how can i love something I didnt even know I had?

HighHopes16 Tue 20-Sep-16 14:17:49

I don't really know what to say other than you are not alone. flowers

Chinnygirl Tue 20-Sep-16 14:24:07

I'm so sorry. It really is awful, I know from experience. I knew I was pregnant when I lost it but I don't think it makes a difference. I believe that your hormones make you love it immediately.

My SIL planted a tree as remembrance for her miscarriage. It helps her to see something positive live and grow. Maybe you can find something that helps you to really deal with your loss. You will feel better in time.

Tryingtostayyoung Wed 21-Sep-16 17:53:28

OP it will be ok and will get better I promise. I too suffered a miscarriage nearly two weeks ago and the immediate darkness that your in does start to get better and easier to come out of. Be strong and hang in there flowers

C4Envelope Sat 24-Sep-16 00:31:36

flowers thank you all for your such lovely responses. I love the tree idea, its beautiful. Its always been an area that I have felt empathy for others but i couldnt imagine what it felt like to happen to me. Starting to feel a little less numb. And feeling love and loss for everyone who has been affected by misscarriage.

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