Struggling

[Banana82]

Hi everyone. You were all so lovely and supportive when I posted about my miscarriage a couple of weeks ago so just wanted to get some advice again.

I had an MVA yesterday and I'm really struggling to hold things together. The time between my scan to confirm the miscarriage and the MVA was nearly 2 weeks and in that time I was actually doing ok. But after the procedure I'm now in pieces. I lost a lot of blood and am feeling quite low. I seem to have no energy to do the smallest things and am crying so much. It's not like me at all and I'm scared.

[YabuDabbaDoo]

Hello - I have been there. Your body has been through so much, with the procedure being a very difficult final hurdle (when I had mine they were still calling it an ERPC, but I'm guessing the event itself is much the same.) I felt really wobbly after mine; I bled quite a lot, the anaesthetic made me feel very strange and then of course the emotional aspect was huge (I also had to wait a couple of weeks for mine, and I think once it was finished my brain and heart finally broke.)

You will return to yourself in time, I promise. Right now, give yourself every possible comfort. Allow your feelings to come through, I believe there is a natural process to grief that can perhaps be delayed a little, but never avoided. You have been through so much and this just demonstrates it.

[littlepooch]

Ah hugs to you. It must all be so raw right now and you're probably wondering how on earth it came to be like this.

I was the same, kept it together in between then after the procedure I just felt awful, both physically and emotionally. It's about 6 weeks on and I'm starting to feel a little better but I honestly didn't expect it to floor me as much as it did. Physically I'm back to normal, emotionally, well that's another story but I will get there.

Just take each day as it comes. Look after yourself and keep posting here if it helps. There are lots of us who will know exactly how you are feeling right now.

to you.

[Banana82]

Thank you both for your lovely replies. You both completely hit the nail on the head with how I am feeling. I think it's just shocked me how different I feel now that it's all over. I was doing so well.

I'm feeling very weepy and finding it hard to sleep. I know I just need to give it time but everything seems so hard at the moment.

[YabuDabbaDoo]

Just take your time, Banana. You'll be okay.

[littlepooch]

It will get better banana I promise. It might take some time but it will.