Waiting for PM results...

[Paige84]

Hi all, I lost my beautiful girl at just 16weeks with no sign of problems and a scan just the day before. It's been 18 weeks now and I still have no answers from the hospital. I know they may not find any reason but the waiting is torturous. I wondered if anyone else had had such a wait or even if anyone had received any answers from any of their tests? I just need to know why. I need to know if there's anything I could've done or anything I can do if I'm ever fortunate enough to fall pregnant again. I just have so many questions which I know I'll probably never get answers to...

[Cashmummy]

Hi Paige, I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't had any experience with testing but I hope you hear something soon. Can you call to ask when they'll have results xx

[Paige84]

I've been calling almost daily for 3 weeks and am promised a callback but it doesn't happen. I understand it's hardly an emergency but still.... I may resort to sitting in the waiting room at some point! I'm sure they'll have them, I was told it's usually 8 weeks but can take up to 16 weeks. Just poor admin on the hospitals part I think x

[Alb1]

Have you considered contacting the hospitals pals for help? I haven't used them so I don't no that they'd be able to help but it doesn't sound like the hospital are supporting you so I think it's worth contacting them to see if you can get someone in your corner to hurry them up

[Cashmummy]

Good idea Alb! I went to PALS when my hospital were being unhelpful with miscarriage results and PALS were on the case and got me what I needed. I emailed them at 2am and they rang me first thing and followed up in writing later that day. I hope they are able to help you.

[Paige84]

Thanks for the replies, I managed to speak to the consultants secretary today who has penciled me in for an appointment to go over everything for either the 9th or 16th of September. Just 2 weeks before what should've been my due date. At least I'll hopefully get some answers x

[AvaMercy]

Hi Paige,

I think I lost my boy around 2 weeks after you at 18 weeks. I had my follow up around a month ago. Like you, I was so full of questions and I just couldn't stand the wait. The not knowing is horrible isn't it.

My advice for the appointment is make sure you write down every single thing you would like to know. Even if that question sounds a little silly. Because when you're there it's so emotional, you do forget the things you were so desperate to ask. I had so many questions prepared but my phone broke on the day and I couldn't access the notes which really massively threw me off.

Also, though the consultant was very nice, it did feel quite rushed and I felt she was racing forward to the 'what we would do next time' conversation, rather than making sure I had fully understood what had actually happened this time.

Also, Im making use of the counselling offered to me by the hospital and before my appointment, the therapist warned me that 50% of the time no reason is found and said that I should brace myself for that outcome, so thought maybe I'd tentatively suggest the same to you... I really sincerely hope you get what you need from this appointment though.

[Paige84]

Still no news about the elusive appointment. I'm so very low and hopeless right now, I don't know how to find or fix myself anymore. I just need to know what happened to her so I don't make the same mistakes if I'm ever able to fall pregnant again

[AvaMercy]

Paige that's awful! How dare they do this to you! Did you try making a complaint via PALS as suggested?

My heart really goes out to you. What we're going through and have gone through us bad enough without being left in limbo in this way by the hospital!

When is the last time you tried to chase this up?

And I completely understand what you're saying about trying to find and fix yourself. That's exactly what I find so so difficult through all of this.

Stay strong

Xx