I wonder if I could ask for some advice on how to handle this situation, please?
I'm about 8 weeks pregnant, and I found out earlier this week that DSis is also pregnant - about 10 weeks. She has a history of recurrent miscarriages, some at 13/14 weeks. No-one knows about my pregnancy yet (except my DH, of course). I've been agonising whether to tell her or not.
I keep thinking that if (God forbid) the worst were to happen for her again, it would add extra hurt for me to announce my pregnancy soon afterwards, especially as our due dates are so close. Telling her now would mean that she wouldn't have it sprung on her at her most vulnerable time. However, we weren't going to announce our pregnancy until the first trimester was over and we've got all the 12 week scans and checks under our belts, so it feels a little pre-emptive to be telling her, given that we have no sure way of knowing yet that everything's ok with my bean.
I can't imagine the pain of suffering so many losses, and I'm crossing all my fingers and toes that she has a sticky bean this time round. I just want to do the right thing by her. So WWYD - tell her now, or not?
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WWYD - Tell her about my pregnancy early or not?
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MamehaSan · 05/08/2016 20:18
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