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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

I want to hear some happy endings

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samk15 · 13/06/2016 00:02

Please please for the love of god can someone tell me there is hope after multiple miscarriages

I'm now in the middle of having my 3rd MMC. It's beyond devastating. I am utterly broken. I'm 39 and have no DC. Please someone who's had similar experiences tell me there is hope. It worries me to death that I don't have any children and maybe I just can't - I'm not sure I'll ever accept it. What is wrong with me :(

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samk15 · 13/06/2016 16:02

Any kind souls

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Alb1 · 13/06/2016 16:30

I don't have any useful stories to tell as I haven't had recurrent miscarriages but don't want your post to be unanswered. I'm so sorry about what your going through, iv had a mmc before and recently had a stillbirth (although I had a healthy DS between the two) so I have some idea how you feel. If/when you feel ready to try again there's a group of us ttc after miscarriage in the conception forum so feel free to join us so we can support each other Flowers

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Chrysanthemum5 · 13/06/2016 16:36

I had a miscarriage at 31 then a DC at 36 then another miscarriage at 38 and the my second DC at 39. No apparent reason for the miscarriages.

I found my doctor was really unhelpful but I hope you are getting better support

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thelionsleeps · 13/06/2016 16:48

Big hugs! It is just shit isn't it?

I had a miscarriage and then had my little boy about 15 months later. Tried for another and had a miscarriage. Pregnant again about 4 months later (after just one time!) and thought I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks - massive bleed and lost all the symptoms. Didn't go to epu as the bleed was so heavy and just knew and just couldn't face it.

6 weeks later pregnancy tests were still showing positive and I thought I must have retained products. Ended up in epu and found out I was 12 weeks pregnant with identical twins - an absolute bloody miracle! I'm 40 btw. So don't lose hope

Can you now be referred - I know where I am they want you to have 3 miscarriages before you can referred. Can you afford to go private as you are 39?

Look after yourself.

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samk15 · 13/06/2016 17:04

Thank you for replying. It's got to be loneliest feeling in the world. I'm sorry that you have all experienced losses too. I have great support at home and my GP is lovely but inside I switch between being utterly overwhelmed by grief to complete rage. And no matter what anyone says I feel so alone.

Alb I'll have a look at the thread, thank you.

Chrys you've given me hope, I'm paranoid I'm too old to be a mum.

The lion that is amazing. Bit of a shock I'd imagine.

I'm waiting to miscarry so that the hospital can do genetic testing on the foetus. I would go private but I wonder if it was worth waiting for the results of the genetic testing?

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Chrysanthemum5 · 13/06/2016 19:41

You're definitely not too old Smile I know plenty of women who had babies in their 40s

Good luck I hope it all works out for you

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