when can i start to TTC after mid pregnancy miscarriage? Help

[Sophiehfz2805]

Last week i had a miscarriage at 5 months, due to an infection which broke my waters and my cervix had fully opened.. I gave birth to my beautiful baby son, which unfortunately had passed away😔 I was just wondering, im on antibiotics to treat an infection if i still have one. When do you think i should start to try for a baby? Will it be ok to try now or after i've finished antibiotics which will be in 5 days time. Please share your experiences and if its possible and any sucessful pregnancies after a mid pregnancy miscarriage? Thank you

[Alb1]

I lost my daughter at 35 weeks on the 1st may this year, we had our consultant appointment yesterday to get all the test results and the consultant said to wait until my periods have gone back to normal, which he said would probably take 3-6 months. However I asked if it was dangerous to start sooner and he said no it'd be fine. We plan to try again straight away, but I didn't have an infection or any medication or anything so it may be worth contacting a midwife and asking their advice about the medication your on.

So sorry to hear about your son, it's such an awful thing to go through

[Sophiehfz2805]

Im so sorry to hear about that. Its such devastating news😔 Im thinking of you and your partner and family. How did it happen if you dont mind me asking? Its fine if you don't want to answer. I've just been worrying throughout the pregnancy and i feel that its happened because i thought so negatively about what if this or that happens:( i just cant help worrying 😪 Thanks for the comment ill ask my midwife to see what she thinks i should do x

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

I lost our daughter just before Christmas at 20 weeks, she was born alive and lived for 3 mins.

I'm currently in my 2ww as I felt my body needed a break (I have a 14 month old son) and we started ttc last month but was told it would be best to wait a couple of months to let my periods stabilise.

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

I'm really sorry for your loss x

[Alb1]

sophie my baby developed an irregular heartbeat (just one of those things apparently) and it caused hydrops which is lots of excess fluid in her body, by the time we found out at a routine appointment she had been ill for too long and it was too late to save her, our situation is incredibly rare tho.

The worrying won't have caused your baby to die, it's honestly really not your fault Sophie. With my son I worried about everything and was convinced he'd die, and he didn't, everything was conpleatly fine, he's almost 2 now, but then with my daughter I was much more confident and just assumed we'd be fine and it turned out she wasn't fine, in both cases the way I felt made no difference to the outcome, sometimes bad things just happen. Try not to blame yourself

[Sophiehfz2805]

Smilingthroughgrittedteeth- thats so sad to hear:( im sorry about your loss. Its such a hard thing to go through, i've literally had so many different feelings about it. I wanna have another baby so badly i just want to be pregnant again i don't know how to put it😪

[Sophiehfz2805]

Alb1- wow i've never heard of that before, it must have been devastating. Im so sorry to hear about it:( i just worry alot and i think to myself maybe if i dont worry next time nothing will happen. But i cant help it. Especially because of whats just happened i feel like im going to worry more.. Just hope everything goes well x