Medical management not working?(13 Posts)
Quick back story I had early scan due to light bleeding then second a week later where ni heartbeat was found. I was told i may miscarriage soon so took 2 days off work to heal emotionally and be home in case of miscarriage
After 2 days of waiting, i went in for misoprostol taken orally. After huge build up of expectations, I went home to miscarry. Unfortunatly I have only experienced mild cramping and light bleeding. My misoprostol was Friday morning and it's now Sat night. I am mentally ready and frustrated nothing has happened. I just want this over with so I can have my body back and.move on.
Has anyone else had medical management take a while or am I destined to have to take another lot/get the op?
I'm sorry, OP . I felt exactly the same as you about wanting my body back once I knew. Any developments last night?
Nothing. I phoned epu and they think my light bleeding could be it (?!?!*!?) So I'm booked in for a scan tomorrow. Doesn't feel right though I was all prepared for fire and brimstone & pain & ... something!
It could be. I wouldn't say mine was light (I was 12 weeks but foetus was 8w6d) and I did have contractions but I didn't think it was painful enough to have passed the sac and yet apparently I had. The earlier it is the lighter it will be, I guess. How far along were you?
I was also awaiting a sort of dramatic crescendo that didn't happen. But when I went in the next day they said it had and I didn't need the scheduled D&C (yes, thanks, body, for carrying it around for 4 weeks before deciding we had to do it the night before the bloody op was booked!). They had given me misoprostol half an hour prior to the D&C appointment. I didn't feel any real cramps or pain but I don't know if it was the same dose as for an MMC.
I had strong painkillers so perhaps it was all damped down. But I think the earlier it happens the less dramatic it is so hopefully you've done the physically hard bit
Thanks for replying. I was 6w3d so maybe that was it. In a weird way I wanted the pain. I don't mean to disrespect those that have been thru the pain but I feel like it would be right to have pain accompanying that kind of loss. But I guess it is what it is.
Thanks for sharing your experience I really appreciate it.
Yes, I think at 6 weeks it is a bit more low-key physically so that might be it. I sort of know what you mean about the pain, but if it helps the pain itself is ephemeral (although not very much fun at the time) - it's the emotional side that was harder to shake, although I do now feel much more like myself physically and that's helped a lot. I assume a lot of it is hormones returning to normal.
I hope you feel better soon
I had a medical miscarriage at 8 weeks (but tablets placed internally) and I certainly knew it when it happened. I'm not sure how different it would be in your case, but personally I had about 5 hours of extremely heavy bleeding (nothing like a period).
Anyway, I hope your scan provided some answers and that you can now see a way forward x
For anyone reading this in the future & now, I finally miscarried Monday night, 3 days and 14 hours after the tablets. It was a definite 'event' that left no doubt as to what was happening & very painful. So it looks like the tablets just didn't work for me & I ended up miscarrying a fee days later.
Currently lying in a hospital bed after my second lot of pessaries following being told at my 12 week scan that the baby's heartbeat had stopped. I was offered surgical management but told I would have to wait 2 weeks so had to opt for this to allow me to move on, but after the second lot, I have had some fairly painful cramping and passed about 6 or 7 golf ball sized clots and now the pain has stopped. I am dreading being sent home to wait and see as I can't bear the thought of walking around feeling half pregnant still for any longer. Also terrified I will be on my own with my 3 year old and I miscarry dramatically as some of you describe...It would terrify her.
We learned of MMC at 12 week dating scan- baby stopped developing around 7/8 weeks.
I declined surgical management. Took the pessaries at home last week- within about 4 hours I had abdominal cramping, lots of bleeding & passing of large clots.
Thought it was all over and done with, then exactly 1 week after the pessaries, all dressed & ready to go back into work- developed severe cramping & bleeding then the clots just kept coming & coming.
Almost 48 hours after this episode, woke up with more cramping & felt a strange trickle. Got out of bed but barely made it to the bedroom room before there was a gush & fluid running down my legs and all over the carpet- was like water (with some blood)- I wondered if this was the sac rupturing/amniotic fluid going..?
This was followed a good few hours of bad cramping pains- in fact, like contractions, coming & going every 10 mins or so, with clots/tissue/blood coming out each time. When I say clots, they were approx the size of my palm and lots of them.
This was the worse episode by far- I was so very glad not to be at work/dropping my LO off at childcare/in the car/at Sainsburys.
So, yesterday felt like the actual miscarriage.
It's been well over a week since I put the pessaries in & almost 7 weeks since the baby stopped developing.
A bit fed up now, just want to be not pregnant & put this all behind us.
Just a warning to those who go down the medical management route- it does not always work straight away! Take at least 1 week off work...I thought it was all over & went off seeing friends and doing normal things, but now I'm staying close to home.
If yesterday had happened outside the home, my clothes would've been soaked in blood...I was soaking a pad in about 15 mins which was scary as I've never had really heavy periods before, so I could see it was relatively huge blood loss!
I was concerned it hadn't worked properly- as I had felt it had been too 'easy', not as much blood etc as I had been expecting (based on what other women have written online).
But also because I know it doesn't always work, I was one of the unfortunates to have a MMC, didn't see why I wouldn't be one for whom medication doesn't work.
I wanted to avoid surgical management at all costs.
Good luck to all of you going through this horrendous time!
It's a genuinely crap experience. But I was glad to know I wasn't carrying it around anymore so there was that at least.
I had the surgery on the 23rd and my body felt better the next day. Literally went off to sleep and woke up an hour later with almost no pain. I imagined I would be really sore after an intrusive procedure but nothing a couple of paracetamol couldn't sort out! Wish I had been able to have this the day after I found out as would have been a much less stressful experience! So now it's just time to try and get back to normal, the tears catch me at funny times but back to Work tomorrow And just hoping I can keep it all together! Thank you for sharing your stories it helped me deal with what was happening. Xx
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