As each day passes I've found myself feeling more guilty about what happened. I am convinced I caused my miscarriage and can't seem to shift the idea that I made it happen because I was so scared of having a baby.
It's true, I am terrified of childbirth but I wanted one more than anything and it's not impossible that this was my last chance.
I did quite a few things that I should not have done after I knew about the pregnancy and should have been looking after myself. I went out and had a full blown panic attack, which cannot be good, and I physically exhausted myself trying to get somewhere when I was worried I was going to let down a friend - there were other things as well. I just cannot shake this feeling that if I'd gone home and tried to calm down this might not have happened.
I'm really scared and think I need help, but I don't know where I'll get it. I'm a long term depression/anxiety sufferer and don't get much help at the best of times, but this is different and I am genuinely scared I'm going to hit rock bottom. There is no way I can carry this around for the rest of my life.
Can anyone help? I need to get into a better place emotionally, and soon, because if OH and I are going to try and get pregnant again (this one was an accident) then I have to get a handle on this anxiety. Right now all I can think is how the hell am I ever going to be able to have a baby and be any sort of a mother if I can't even stay pregnant for 2 weeks. I feel so scared and alone :(
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Blaming myself - please help
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1001questions · 01/04/2016 19:51
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