Just that really. My baby boy died after being born very prematurely at 23 +5. This time last year I'd just found out I was pregnant a few days before mothers day and was so excited that 2016 I would be a mother. I am a mother, but I feel invisible.
So i thought I'd create a sweary thread for us all to come and have a shout about it as I am finding it all a bit shit. All the constant adverts on tv and flowers/cards in shops etc. It can all fuck off!
I've never said this but roll on Monday!
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Mother's day can fuck off!
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Itsalwayssunny · 04/03/2016 20:11
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DontCareHowIWantItNow ·
05/03/2016 09:47
OP I know how you feel.
I have to cope with these dates and my loses whilst also helping DSC and their dealing with the little/no contact that they have with their poor excuse for a mother.
for everyone.
Pacothepidgeon ·
05/03/2016 10:28
It's a bit too close to my miscarriage to be any more rational than 'screw Mothers Day'
That is exactly how I feel 
. Although I think next year is when I will really feel it. Plan of action is to avoid all Mother's Day crap, definitely won't be on facebook and maybe go for a long walk in the middle of nowhere.
Another made up holiday that just causes upset!
smellsofelderberries ·
05/03/2016 11:57
Sending out HUGE hugs to everyone here. I had completely forgotten Mother's Day even existed until a month ago when my SIL text DH asking if we wanted to come to them for Mother's Day to celebrate all together as a family. I was like, "celebrate what, exactly? I had an ERPC less than a month ago" (which SIL knew about 
) I am basically NC with SIL and the above explains why. Anyway, yes, Mother's Day can fuck off.
I am having brunch with girlfriends tomorrow, one of whom is about to start IVF and totally gets it. Instead of hitting my 19 week milestone, I will probably get my period. Again. And then we'll move on to cycle 11 of trying.
BipBippadotta ·
05/03/2016 16:54
Motherfucking mother's day can fuck right the fuck off.
My dd - my first and only child - was stillborn at 40+4 a year and a half ago. I've had 2 missed miscarriages since then, and I just had an embryo transfer yesterday with my first round of IVF. There is an 80% chance it will not work. I am pretty fucking jaded with it all now.
Plus my own mother lives in the US where this shit doesn't get celebrated until May, which means I inevitably forget to send her a card or flowers and then feel like a scumbag. And my MIL died 5 years ago.
Lots of love and swearing to everyone who's lost a child or a mother, or both.
KittyandTeal ·
05/03/2016 16:55
Even before I lost dd2 those mother days cards from bump were repulsive. Now they just seem utterly self absorbed and ridiculous.
I've told DH if he even thinks about it I will consider it grounds for divorce 
(he's not that insensitive, he knows how anxious I am)
Luckily roast is my DM birthday and so tmrw we have the family over for a birthday meal for her, that definitely overrides any Mother's Day crap.
Interestingly one of my friends who is a priest (strange relationship as I'm an atheist!) was talking about proper forgetting the true meaning of Mothering Sunday ie a part of lent in which you return to your 'mother' church. I like to think about this now as it makes me realise that Mother's Day actually has no meaning to me as I am in no way religious. (I'm also aware that doesn't make much sense!)
BastardGoDarkly ·
05/03/2016 18:29
I've not suffered the losses like so many of you. But I agree, mother's day is a shit time for so many, I think it should just be scrapped.
Sending strength to those who need it tomorrow
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