partner left me 10 days after MC

(16 Posts)
GalwayGal123 Sat 16-Jan-16 17:39:18

Has anyone's relationship broken down after a miscarriage?
I miscarried an unplanned baby last week at 6wks...I wanted the baby, my boyfriend didn't. We have been together less than a year, don't live together. We are in our 30's and our relationship was a bit rocky before this, but still very much a lot of love there.
I feel like I need him more than ever and feel so vulnerable, I have been up and down in my temperament and emotions over the past few weeks since I found out I was pregnant and subsequently miscarried, but I feel like I don't deserve to be left because of it.

sleeplessinmybedroom Sat 16-Jan-16 17:54:18

I'm so sorry you're going through all this especially without his support. The test of a relationship is how they behave during the bad times not just the good. He's failed miserably. Take care of yourself.

GalwayGal123 Sat 16-Jan-16 18:12:44

He has failed miserably hasn't he.
I'm so confused by his actions.

Loki17 Sat 16-Jan-16 18:58:39

I'm so sorry. He is an arsehole of the highest order. He doesn't deserve you. Have you anyone in rl for support?

GalwayGal123 Sat 16-Jan-16 19:35:37

Yes I have my mum, I'm with her now. Thank you, I just feel lost and confused.

RoTo72 Sun 17-Jan-16 14:34:24

Massive hugs Galway. He really should be there for you. I don't think I could have survived if it weren't for my partner.

GalwayGal123 Sun 17-Jan-16 18:30:27

Thank you RoTo...I've started a thread in relationships where I am getting good advice which helps.
And my mum has been a rock, I'm so glad I'm not completely alone during this.
I really miss him and I wish he hadn't left me.

redstrawberries101 Sun 17-Jan-16 23:59:52

Thinking of you Galway xx

GalwayGal123 Mon 18-Jan-16 09:20:12

Thank you Melvali.

I hope you're feeling better this week? Thinking of you too Xx

redstrawberries101 Mon 18-Jan-16 09:57:28

I'm not really sure to be honest, if that makes sense. My outbursts are getting less but I've been keeping myself busy watching a series, literally every free minute of the day. Been trying to physically build a bit of strength buy getting out of bed every couple of hours and having a potter around but not left the house. I came back home on Friday from my mums. Mil is really quite poorly, in HDU so am going to try see her at some point today. It will probably all hit me again when I go back to work and have a normal day again. I'm trying to focus on moving forward though, I packed away anything related to pregnancy and have been looking to get some cupping done to help the body have a clear out. I saw my nutrionist and have motivation to get all my vitamin /mineral levels topped up and I'm thinking of maybe acupuncture later down the line to help my body 'balance'. I still do feel exhausted so it's important to get my strength back. I'll never forget but I want to take the positives from this experience too. Coming from someone who had health issues previously I worried I wouldn't fall pregnant or it would least take time but it happened first cycle and now I now I can fall pregnant so that's a big bonus for me. I've got my diary out today to write things down and get them out of my system.

GalwayGal123 Mon 18-Jan-16 22:09:47

It's so good that you can take something positive from this experience...having a forward thinking outlook will be great for your recovery Melvali. I'm trying my best to do the same.
What series are you watching? I need something to fill up my time now that my evenings are empty! Can you recommend anything?!
Sending love thanks

redstrawberries101 Tue 19-Jan-16 10:06:53

I've been watching pretty little liars, been meaning to watch it for a while and recently got the amazon Fire stick so was able to get Netflix. It's quite good and it keeps my mind busy. I'm not feeling so bright today though, had my first proper meal last night as I've not been eating much and I think it was too much for my body, (have digestive issues since the surgery on pancreas) and been up since 5am , uncomfortable. Just lying in bed to force myself to rest a bit longer and then I'll make some lentil curry/boiled rice for dinner tonight and try and pop to local supermarket for a couple things. I've not driven in 2016! And would prefer a short journey before going to work on Thursday.

RoTo72 Tue 19-Jan-16 15:13:32

Good luck for work Mel. I'm dreading it. Went for counselling this morning in work. Was the floor above our.office. I saw a guy I work with on the way in and I hid behind a car incase he spoke to me. What am I like? I'm back to work on the 2nd Feb. Iv asked my manager to let my team know what happened and to ask them for some space the first day r so.

redstrawberries101 Tue 19-Jan-16 16:22:51

I'm also not looking forward to work but I know that once I'm back it'll be fine. It's the fear of it that's worse!'I forced myself to go out today (since the miscarriage I've only been to appt, and to Hosp yesterday to see mil). I went to Asda to make some returns (they have a post office) and did a bit of shopping. I could not think straight. I just walked round and round in circles. It was really weird. Felt dizzy at times too but I'm glad I went as it'll put me in better shape for full day at work on Thursday.

Just before I left the house one of my friends text and said she is expecting, it threw me off a bit. I told her about the miscarriage and she said she went through one in Feb so she knows how I'm feeling. Her comment annoyed me a bit as she knows nothing of the circumstances (the infection that went sepsis, hospital admission etc, medically managed miscarriage) but I know she means well. I've calmed down a bit and looking forward to speaking to her about it.

RoTo72 Wed 20-Jan-16 23:46:30

I think I'm ready to go back. Im dreading the first morning but I bet by the end of the week it will be like I was never off

redstrawberries101 Thu 28-Jan-16 00:18:56

Galway and roto, how are you both? Xx

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