I lost my baby 5 weeks ago tomorrow, at 16 weeks. Nobody knew about the pregnancy apart from family, partly because of problems in the pregnancy which meant there was only a two week window when we thought everything was OK before we were told the baby had died. So already having issues over who to tell and how and feeling increasingly like I want to shout it from the rooftops because I'm sick of hiding it.
Anyway, visited ILs last week. It was the first time I'd seen them or spoken to them since the mc, we were there for a good few hours, there were times when the kids weren't around and it wasn't mentioned at all. I came away thinking this is how it's going to be isn't it from now on, everybody just forgetting about it. I should say my PILs were around looking after the kids the weekend of the mc and there was a brief 'how are you' phone call to me during the day after my discharge, it's my SIL and family we were visiting.
Just sounding off really and feeling fed up, it's not like I want to be the centre of attention but this is weird. It almost makes me feel did I really go through hell/ am still going through hell or have I have I dreamt it??
I'm still getting round to deciding who to tell and how but this has made me feel I want to tell more people, so far it's only my mum and DH I talk to.
It's such a specific and unusual type of grief isn't it, you carry it found all the time but you can't mention it in the same way you would if say a relative had died or something, not that I'm in any way saying that's a better thing to happen.
As I say just sounding off a bit, but anyone else feeling the same way?
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Other people acting like nothing's happened (just sounding off really)
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eastegg · 17/09/2015 12:00
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