Just miscarried

[ElliePuryear]

Hello everyone,
Last week I found out that I was pregnant. Being 40 and having tried for so long to get pregnant, this seemed like a true miracle. But then on Monday this week, something didn't seem right. I called my doctor Tuesday and they had me come in for blood work. Sure enough, I had started to miscarry. I am so heartbroken but trying to stay strong and positive. The optimist in me is saying that maybe now that we were able to get pregnant, it will be easier to do it again from here on out. But I also so scared that that was my only opportunity at being a Mommy. I have been reading how it's easier to get pregnant immediately following a miscarriage, but I'm thinking this is probably only the case for younger ladies. Any encouraging words would be so appreciated at this very difficult time.
Ellie

[Lagoonablue]

Sorry Ellie. It's rubbish isn't it. If it's any consolation I was 42 when I first got pg but miscarried at 8 weeks. I got pg again a month later and had a healthy baby girl. Then got pg again at 46!

I know I was lucky but don't give up hope. I felt like you after my miscarriage. Felt like my only chance had gone. It hasn't though. Just give yourself some time and TLC, a chance to come to terms with the loss and then try again.

You will always have a place in your heart for the baby you lost though. Look after yourself

[ElliePuryear]

Thank you for the kind words and putting some hope in my heart.

[Brummiegirl15]

I'm so sorry for your loss Ellie

It's shit and heartbreaking. Please look after yourself and take time to grieve.

I'm 38 (39 in October) and I've had 3 miscarriages in the past year and I'm now pregnant for the 4th time. (With no kids yet) So please do not give up hope.

Please be reassured that your chance of having a successful pregnancy is very good. Every single pregnancy is a fresh start. It's new lining, new egg, new sperm. It's like hitting restart on the PC.

Look after yourself and never give up xx

[ElliePuryear]

Thank you. I have definitely been trying to put on a brave front and go on as normal, but my body and heart today are rebelling. So far I have broken down in tears at work twice today and just all of a sudden feel exhausted. Fortunately, co-workers did not see the tears. After a conversation with my mother in law this afternoon, I have decided that after the work week is over, I am going to use the weekend to just stop and sit still and allow myself to feel this damn feelings that I am trying to push away.

[Brummiegirl15]

Why are you at work? You need to recover emotionally and physically.

You should take all the time you need to grieve. Any GP would not hesitate to sign you off for 2 weeks.

I had 1 week for my 1st. 2 weeks for 2nd and 4 weeks for 3rd which was a silent mc

Don't suffer in silence

[BabyOnBoob]

I'm so sorry for your loss

I got pregnant after I miscarried, don't give up hope and go for it if/when you want to try again.

It's such a horrible thing to go through I'm really sorry.

[ElliePuryear]

I stayed home the day this whole thing started, which was two days ago. I would go crazy if I stayed alone right now. Being at work has been a good distraction, and husband will be home with me this weekend.