What happens now?

[Bells2307]

I've just found out I've miscarried, I'm 12 weeks but baby apparently died at 8 weeks. I'm going in for an eprc tomorrow morning and I'm scared stiff. I know my baby is dead and understand that in my case the surgery is best but I'm struggling. Can anyone tell me what happens after? We've already decided that we'll try again but I'm now worried because of this mc, if I fall pregnant again, will I be offered early scans? Is there any other way of checking things are going ok? I'm worried because during the last four weeks whilst baby was dead, I've carried on having all pregnancy symptoms and no bleeding etc, it's only because I had some stabbing pains that I ended up in a&e and eventually had a scan that we found out I'd mc. Any advice or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.

[MummyPiggy87]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
In answer to your question about early scans I called and kept asking for reassurance scans but was told (when I called in my area) that a woman would be offered early scans if it were the 3rd or more mc, if this is your 1st mc I would assume they wouldn't either as the next pregnancy could be perfectly healthy.
I had a mc last year and know you will feel on edge as I did, I am now 14 weeks with the next one and have already had 3 scans because I had a couple of bleeds.

I really wish you all the luck in the world xx

[Brummiegirl15]

Hi Bells I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had 3 mc's (with 1 of those a missed mc) and of those, I've had 2 x ERPCs.

Please do not be scared of the ERPC, I found it was the best option. You close your eyes and then it's over and you can start grieving. You will have minimal bleeding and pain afterwards but the anaesthetic will make you feel very tired and groggy.

Be kind to yourself and take your time.

Before you start again, you must ensure you take a test and it's negative. Which is heartbreaking I know but it's the only way to be sure you can start again. Took me 3 weeks to get a negative test.

The thing to remember is that every single pregnancy is different. It's a new start, a new egg, new lining - almost like hitting the reset button.

Having an mc is heartbreaking but it you have just as much chance of having a successful pregnancy.

My only other bit of advice is try and wait for your period first so you have a starting point. Doctors do prefer to do this as it makes dating so much easier. Basically it means if you know when your last period was, when you have a scan you can be dated accurately - if you don't, your scan can be inconclusive and it be so distressing because you don't know if it's because you don't know your dates or if the same thing is happening again.

I really do understand that need to be pregnant again, after a forced 4 month break for tests after mc number 3 I'm trying again. But be kind to yourself and give yourself time xx

[littlemiss06]

So sorry for your loss, i miscarried 24 days ago at 10 weeks, baby had died around 5. I had my first negative test today which like the previous poster said you will need before you try again, we will try again but it is frightening, I hope all is ok for you, give yourself time to grieve, sending my thoughts x