Miscarriage

[TheBiscuitStrikesBack]

I miscarried a long waited for baby on the 14th February and am still so sad. Everyday is a struggle and life is full of awful, painful reminders.

I don't really know what anyone can say to make me feel better but if anyone can offer some insight in to when I won't feel so desperate, or so lost, it would be appreciated.

[kirinm]

It just takes time. I've had 4 miscarriages and an ectopic. My most recent miscarriage was at 11 weeks and I was devastated for a long time. I tried to think of positive changes I could make to my life and concentrate on. It works but nothing stops me feeling sad about the loss. It hurts less than it did but it's a traumatic experience that I won't ever feel 'fine' about.

It's okay to grieve.

[jimijack]

Every one is different.

In the immediate aftermath I thought I would never recover, for weeks/ months I felt sad & desperate, it dominated my every thought.
But it was ok in the end.
We kept going and going.

It's a fucking, Bastard of a thing to happen.
Sympathies x

[kellyt2]

I had an ectopic I am only 21 I'm terrified that I won't have kids again bit I am blessed to already have a son and feel for anyone who is struggling with having miscarages me and my partner hardly go near each other anymore because I'm to scared although there is contraception I still feel you can get caught and alls that goes through my mind is of this will happen again ! Reeli put me off .

[Brummiegirl15]

Biscuit I've had 3 miscarriages in less than a year and I feel utterly broken.

It's ok to grieve though, take all the time you need.

And please take heart in the fact that every single pregnancy is a fresh start. Every embryo and every lining is different and must be taken on it's own merits.

So please don't give up hope. As I have just been told by an incredibly senior specialist at the University of Warwick the best way to be successful after mc is to keep trying and persevere. Please don't give up hope

[TheBiscuitStrikesBack]

Thank you for your incredibly kind words brummie, I can't imagine what you are going through and you are remarkable for staying so strong.

Amazingly, I woke up this morning to the attached. I can't and won't believe it until I see it. Completely shocked, and equally terrified.

[Brummiegirl15]

Wow.

That certainly exciting and scary. Please just tell yourself though "today I am pregnant"

It is probably worth seeing your GP now and get referred to the Early pregnancy unit for a scan from about 6 weeks in order to reassure yourself.

There is also a pregnancy after miscarriage thread on the pregnancy board which is very helpful

Good luck