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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

New to all this and very confused

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SpringSpring · 19/03/2015 17:42

I'm afraid this is going to be a bit of a brain dump, but I think I just need to write it all down.

According to my dates I'm 7 weeks today. This is my 1st, but it's been a long road to get to this 1 pregnancy - I really thought it would never happen.

Early in the week I just had a really funny feeling that all was not well. I don't really know why - I had strange feelings - sort of stabbing pains that came and went - not very painful, but certainly very odd. On one occasion I had some brown blood when I wiped - but literally just the once. I don't feel in the slightest bit pregnant any more, whereas last week I was really thirsty, headachy and needed the loo constantly.

I got so worked up I self-referred to EPU. They did a scan and said that there was a sac, measuring 2mm, but no yolk or embryo visible. They said that my dates were wrong, and that I was measuring more like early 5 weeks (I'd have been 6+5 on my dates). They've told me to go back in two weeks for a repeat scan. They won't do bloods because they've seen something on the ultrasound.

I've convinced myself that I am going to miscarry and the waiting is killing me.

Their suggested dates just don't work. Sorry for the TMI, but the last time we BD'd before the positive test was 15th Feb, so I don't see how I could be only five weeks. The sonographer said something about maybe I didn't ovulate until a few days later than that, but there was still stuff 'hanging around' to meet the egg, and that perhaps the egg took a long time to implant, but that really does seem to be clutching at straws to me.

The wait is killing me. What would you do in my position - wait until the next scan on 1 April, or try and get one sooner? I could go private, or my GP said to turn up at the urgent care unit and complain of pain and they would scan.

I'm sort of thinking maybe I should go at the beginning of next week (so a week from the last scan) and if nothing's changed I can at least start to come to terms with things.

I've tried to persuade EPU and doctor to do bloods to see if my hormone levels are dropping, but no joy.

Am I completely overreacting and overthinking this? Might their dates somehow be right and things actually be okay, or am I just clutching at straws?

Sorry for such a mega post, no one I can talk to about this IRL and I just feel like this is going to end badly and I'll never get pregnant again :(

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SpringSpring · 19/03/2015 18:13

I should add that I was given progesterone suppositories as this pg followed a trigger shot, and I'm still on them, so I'm worried they're just keeping everything inside :(

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 19/03/2015 18:17

Hi OP, sorry you are in this situation.
It is possible that you ovulated a few days later- apparently sperm can live up to 5 days in the right conditions and so you could have conceived 5 days after the last time you had sex.
How does this correspond with when you got a positive pregnancy test? When I was 9 weeks, my scan measured me at 6. This was a mmc. I KNEW it couldn't be 6 weeks because that would mean I got a positive pregnancy test a week before I conceived.
The reason for waiting a week or two between scans is in case it is viable, to check whether it has grown sufficiently during that time. Unless they've told you they won't scan for 2 weeks and you would prefer 1, I don't think there is much point in booking a private scan.
I'm sorry you are in limbo- the waiting is hell. Try and keep busy and be kind to yourself. Thanks Thanks

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 19/03/2015 18:19

And if this is a mc, you should have no problems getting pregnant again. miscarriages are just horribly common and so don't mean you are any more likely to have one another time. Check out the miscarriage association- they are amazing for info.

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