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DH wants to celebrate Mother's Day... wwyd?

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heartsorehelena · 14/03/2015 02:21

I hadn't thought about it. But of course, this is my first ever Mother's Day as a mother. But our twin babies were born/ died last year.

Also, I'm too ill to do much. What does daddy do?

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MooMoi · 14/03/2015 11:50

It is such a personal thing, in a similar situation I chose not too, not because I wasn't a mother, it just didn't feel right.

It sounds like your husband wants to spoil you, what about a lovely duvet day with DVDs and treats?

There are so many tough days to get through, we all just have to do what it takes.

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 14/03/2015 11:53

:( and (((hugs))) - it's a lovely idea that he wants to do something nice for you but it's a real double-edged sword, isn't it?

Perhaps he should just get you something you'd really like, maybe not an actual Mothers' Day card, but a "love you lots" style card instead - I don't know, what would you prefer? I would think an actual Mothers' Day card would be too poignant, too heartbreaking - but you might prefer it.

Thanks for you anyway and I hope that he finds just the right level to give you a thoughtful day. xx

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KittyandTeal · 14/03/2015 16:09

Could you do something to remember your twins tmrw? Could you leave flowers or something.

I would like to have left flowers on my dd2s 'patch' where we buried her ashes at the crematorium but having a toddler it didn't seem quite right. I left some yesterday instead.

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