MC support November 2014

[GuybrushThreepwoodMP]

Seems there are a few of us going through this at the moment. Just wondering if anyone wanted to combine individual threads and have a current day-by-day support thread to share as we all get through it?
I had a mmc confirmed by scan today- should have been 10 weeks. No bleeding or pain yet so hoping it starts soon.
Anyone feel like joining me? Hugs and that to the rest of you.

[Rockinghorse123]

I'll join. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks a few week ago, although it was early days this is my second early miscarriage in a few months and I'm finding it difficult this time.

Thanks for starting the tread OP I think it helps to have somewhere to vent where people understand what you're going through.

So sorry that you're both going through such an awful time.

[sizethree]

Hi ladies. Very sad to be joining you but grateful for the support.
So I'ce not reluctantly joing the elite group of recurrent miscarriers. Found out about my impending 3rs miscarriage at yesterday's scan. I should've been 9 weeks. Only measuring 6 and no heartbeat. In a cruel twist, this happened nearly a year ago to the day, on the anniversary of my first miscarriage (MMC at 12 weeks) and back in July I had a natural miscarriage at 7 weeks. So feeling pretty bruised and battered over here! And a bit angry with my body for not being able to do what I so dearly want it to do and that everyone one else seems to do so effortlessly.
Got an awful weekend ahead of waiting for things to start happening. But booked in on Monday for medical management (wanted a D&C but longer wait til Thurs).
But I suppose I should find a bit of comfort in the fact that I'll now get further testing as I qualify.
Sorry for the doom and gloom. I do hope you others are getting on ok.
It really is a heart wrenchingly awful thing to happen and I'm so sorry we are all having the same sad journey.

[GuybrushThreepwoodMP]

So sorry sizethree.
Have you had medical management before?

[sizethree]

Thanks guybrush. Yes I have. I had it for my first MMC. But that was at a later stage baby measuring 8+5 weeks, and I found it really traumatic (but again the wait for a D&C was 6 days - too long to cope emotionally I thought). This time it's much smaller at 6 weeks, so hoping like my natural miscarriage in July, that it's much more straight forward, and the quantity of everything is a lot less. But very much hoping my body kick starts itself into realising everything before I have to medical management on Monday. As my body got back to normal so much more readily after the natural one.
How are you getting on?

[Barker123]

Hi

Sorry to hear you are going through this. I had a miscarriage 4 weeks ago at 10 weeks. It was my first pregnancy. It started with light spotting and got a little heavier the next day but still nothing major and I only needed thin panty liners. I had a scan at EPU which confirmed I was miscarrying two days after I had start spotting.

The best piece of advise I was given was that if the bleeding gets so much as you have to change your sanitary pad every half then I was to call the EPU/your doctor.

My bleeding got heavier quite rapidly in the evening after my scan. I had switched to maxi pads by then.( I read that you shouldn't wear tampons). I then had to make that call and ended in the hospital being monitored and had to have an emergency eprc (something I was petrified about) because I lost so much blood in a short period of time. After the eprc I was instantly better, my body was calmer, much less pain and the bleeding much much lighter.

The hospital staff were amazing with me and I can't thank them enough for helping us through a traumatic experience. I just wanted to share this as i have seen some threads saying people bunkered up in the loo for a few hours trying to get through it themselves. After my experience i personally wouldn't recommend it as there is a difference between passing the pregnancy material and just bleeding. In my case my womb went into over drive as a small amount of material got stuck and it was trying to flush it out.

So essentially, listen to your body and take painkillers if you need to and don't be afraid to ask for medical advice if you are concerned at any point and needing to change those pads every half an hour or more frequently. I had no idea what to expect and regretted not looking on these forums before.

I'm sending you lots of love and hugs at this rubbish time and I hope you find this useful rather than scary. I was quite unlucky. Best wishesXxX

[sizethree]

Hi barker, thanks for sharing your story. It's heartbreaking but comforting to know that I'm not alone. But I'm so so sad you're experiencing this awfulness too.
I called my EPU earlier as I got cold feet about the medical management. I've decided to wait it out til the next available D&C on Thursday. (I'll have the miscarriage management hat trick of trying all three varieties - sorry I shouldn't joke. I'm just trying anything to lighten up this awfulness). And in the meantime I'll potter around and hope my body starts to release things naturally.
How are you feeling now? Are you healing ok?
I remember my first miscarriage so clearly. It'll always be the worst as you lose that blissful innocence pregnancy. I so hope that it's a one off for you and you have much happier times ahead.