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Advice needed....shld I try again?

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Bigfoot73 · 16/10/2014 21:50

Hi I had a MMC at 8 weeks a couple of weeks ago which resulted in an ERPC. Was totally shocked and devastated as I have 2 children and never any probs with pregnancies before. I never thought I cld have any more children as I have had a few gynae problems which left me with one ovary but I obviously can get pregnant. I'm 41 and was so happy to get pregnant and it's all I can think about and want to try again but just don't know if I cld cope emotionally if it happened again. Are there any positive stories of older mums who have had a miscarriage and gone on to have healthy pregnancies? Or should I just count my blessings and accept my baby days are over? It's such a difficult position, I just want to get on and try again but so scared....is my age totally against me, I was taking pregnacare conception vitamins, any other advise on what I can do to improve my chances of a healthy pregnancy. Sorry if rambling just wish I had someone to talk to in RL about all my feeling. DH is great but don't think he really understands how I feel and so hard to explain...

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Iggi999 · 16/10/2014 22:22

Hi Bigfoot, sorry to hear about your loss, it is so difficult isn't it? To address you age concern - my own experience was having dc2 at 42, that was following 4 mcs and one child (in my first pregnancy).
I had specific issues (natural killer cells) but regarding vitamins I took loads - usual pregnacare, but vit D3 seems important and I took higher strength folic acid and selenium. Avoid anything giving you extra vitamin A though. It's a hard decision to make and yes there is always a chance of it happening again, but also a good chance of success. It's maybe too raw to make your mind up yet?

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Iggi999 · 16/10/2014 22:36

Oops, and omega 3 and Coenzyme q10.

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Frecklefacedgirls · 16/10/2014 23:46

Hi Bigfoot , so sorry to hear of your loss,miscarriage is such a devastating experience to go through x
I conceived at 44(though we weren't actively ttc!) but sadly miscarried at 11 weeks. We then decided to ttc, not to replace the little one we lost but we felt there was room in our family for another child . Unless you've been through pregnancy loss it's hard to understand that "empty arm syndrome". I had several more miscarriages and was told at my age my chances of losing any further pregnancies was 50% each time. We decided to give up as it was heartbreaking losing so many babies in succession,I stopped charting my temperature,doing OPKs,taking pregnacare conception tabs etc. However before we took steps to sort out contraception I fell pregnant again and this one stuck. I was classed as a high risk pregnancy and had a lot of monitoring but everything was fine, pregnancy was no more difficult than my earlier pregnancies in my 20s/30s. I was induced on my due date and had a quick uncomplicated delivery of DC4 at the age of 46!
After MC3 I had been advised to take 75mg aspirin daily after getting a BFP so I was on that for my last pregnancy and I restarted pregnancy vitamins once I realised too(tesco ones with added omega). I also avoided caffeine but I don't know if it made any difference, I was told at my age the chances of a chromosomal abnormality was higher and though I didn't have testing it was likely to have been the issue with my miscarriages.
It's a hard decision to make whether to try again ,there is a chance MC could happen again but there's also a chance you could have an uneventful pregnancy and everything will be fine. If you do decide to ttc check out the thread for 40+ ladies on the Conception site. A lot of people have also experienced pregnancy loss and there's lots of support and understanding.

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Bigfoot73 · 17/10/2014 22:05

Thank you for your responses, I have been feeling in a much better place today, it was 2 weeks today that I had the ERCPC and feel like my body has got back to normal. I've ordered some ovulation tests and pregnancy tests to make sure the HCG levels have dropped and think I'm just going to go for it. I don't want to regret not trying again and really it's now or never. Also,been reading that most people are super fertile after MC so here goes.....