I had a mmc discovered at private 8 wk scan a couple of months ago . It had been an unplanned dc3 but I had got my head round it and was excited, DH wasn't thrilled but seemed to be getting used to the idea, talking about bigger car etc! Soon after it happened while he was comforting me he said 'we can try again' and I've been really holding onto that. I had a cm between dd1 and dd2 but conceived dd2 fairly soon after and I guess that was the way I got over it and dealt with it. I was waiting for my period to come back which has taken a while and now I'm mid cycle. I thought we were both on the same page trying again but it now emerges he thought I was back on the pill, that it was a long time ago now and we're all fine and back to normal, no dc3 on the cards.
To be totally honest I have been to-ing and fro-ing a bit as to whether a 3 rd child would be right for our family but I think deep down I would love another. And him saying no makes me want it more (or realise how much I do?). I know that guilt-tripping him into it isn't going to work. But since this came out its like I'm grieving again for the mc, the 3rd child we'll never have now. I was getting through it by focusing on trying again and now I'm not sure what to do with myself. We were so nearly a family of 5.
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perrinelli · 19/09/2014 09:14
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