I had my second miscarriage at the end of July. I had avoided mentioning the pregnancy to my mother (she has definite theories about what I did wrong with the first pregnancy this year).
Anyway today she asked if I 'had any pregnancy news yet'.
I said no. Actually I'd had another miscarriage and as I'm not pregnant now and we have plans for a big holiday with my DD's next year I wouldn't try again. (Also I turn 40 next year).
Now she is cross. She can't believe I won't try again. She insists I go to a Dr to "sort" it. She doesn't understand there is no 'it'. There are no answers. What do I say?
When she realised I was trying she went ballistic over trying at my age. Now she seems to think I'm not trying enough.
I hate that I cannot have a baby. Of course I do. But now I feel so selfish for prefering to not go through the horror again. I know husband wants to try again but at least he realises we can't with a holiday in place. I know this means pushing my 40 deadline.
I just want to scream. It is selfish. But I need to look forward to real life and stop fantasising about what I apparently am not getting.
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seasavage · 30/08/2014 13:28
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