I'm ready to tell my story - it may help others in similar positions

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Olive1987 Sat 02-Aug-14 09:25:30

My story starts with me and my dp discussing ttc. We decide to give it a go, thinking it may take a good few months to conceive. Turns out we conceived the very first month! We was so pleased! 6 weeks in I wasn't getting any pregnancy symptoms, I had done another test because my mind was playing tricks. The line was so dark it had to be true!
The next day I started to spot but had no pain, I panicked and went to my gp. He got me an early scan that same day. I got told that there was a sac but no baby and it's only measuring about 5 weeks. So it could be that my dates are mixed and that I'm not as far on as I thought. So come back in 10 days.
I didn't need to return, that very night I miscarried, it was horrible. I had contraction pains and heavy bleeding.
A week later the bleeding had gone and I tested again and it was negative already. So I called the epu and explained, they said it was a miscarriage and not to worry about coming in.
That was the end of that.

We moved house and i got pregnant again!!!

This time I really didn't feel like it was real, I couldn't get attached like I did before. Then I started getting pregnancy symptoms! Hunger, sore boobs and I even started to feel sick.
Then at 6 weeks I started bleeding again, I went back to the doctors and explained, and explained what had happened last time and I got another scan that very same day. This time at a different hospital.
They scanned me and found just an empty sac. They explained that I may not be as far on as what I thought but they will take blood to check hcg levels. Come back in two days.
My levels HAD risen!! Only by 3000 though, which wasn't doubling, so they said they will scan again and see what is going on. They mentioned ectopic, but because they saw a sac it's very low chance it's ectopic.

The scan confirmed a second miscarriage.

I was ok after that, I hadn't got as attached to that one so I could let it go as quickly as I could.

The thing about the second one is that I had virtually no pain. And that my hcg went up!

I just wanted to get that out there if anyone has or is going through the same thing. Thank you if you read the whole thing.

It's not putting us off, we will try again!

Greyhound Sat 02-Aug-14 17:37:13

Almost identical experience here sad

Am so sorry for your losses, it is very hard to go through miscarriage.

I finally had my miracle baby after four miscarriages - no cause found, despite tests sad

Hope you get your baby soon xx

charlieis30 Sat 02-Aug-14 18:05:51

Similar to my story. Went off the pill in last year, got preg reasonably quickly on month 3. Started bleeding Feb at 7wks. Referred for ultrasound, showed baby only 5+4, MC'd 2 days later.
DH and I decided to use protection for a couple of months, partly because GP recommended a month break and partly because my head was a bit messed up.
Got pregnant again another 3 months later, in June. At 8wks (last Tues) went for private scan to find that baby small again (6+5) and heartbeat very very slow. Advised I will probably miscarry again, another scan next Friday to find out what's going on. Had HCG measurements Weds and Friday, will get results Monday. Now just waiting. Waiting waiting waiting.

Just wanted to say congrats Olive on your really great positive attitude. I hope I can be like that! xx

pixiebelle2014 Fri 15-Aug-14 08:48:48

Hi Olive

Thanks for sharing your story.

I had almost the same experience. Yesterday I started bleeding (dark brown blood, not heavy but more than spotting) and went to the hospital to have a scan. I thought I was about 8-9 weeks, the scan showed an empty sack. The doctor said the sack looked like it had stopped growing at 5 weeks.

The doctor was unable to confirm a miscarriage, which I found really frustrating as it has left me me hope that my dates were wrong and that this bleeding will just go away and I'll still be pregnant.

Can anyone tell me what to expect next? Am I going to bleed a lot? do I need to stay at home? will I have contractions? is there a chance that my dates are wrong?

Thanks
Pixie

Olive1987 Fri 15-Aug-14 09:50:40

Hi pixiebelle, I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. It does sound very similar to my experience. Although I hope so very much that you have a happy outcome. There is always a chance the dates could be wrong. I don't want to give you false hope. But if you're measuring roughly 5 weeks and you thought you was 8-9 weeks then that's a 3 or 4 week gap to be getting gates wrong. It's very frustrating when they can't give you a definite answer. I hope they took bloods? Or have booked you in for a follow up scan?

If it is unfortunately a miscarriage then no one can tell you what to expect. Like every birth, every miscarriage is different. Like i said my second one (which measured 5 weeks too) was virtually painless.

Physically it can last for a few days to a few weeks. It's hard to say how your body will deal with it. And of corse emotionally it will take a lot longer.

I'm here if you want to talk, you can private message me.

Let us know how you get on xx

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