Friends' pregnancies

[FizzyPinkWine]

I had my second miscarriage in late January. I found it very hard to deal with, it was the second in four and a half months. I took 5 weeks off work with the recovery and anxiety. Since then I've got better, I have gradually become more able to talk about it, but still find it hard. I am still really struggling with news of other pregnancies. In the last three weeks, three very close friends have told me they're pregnant. I am happy for them, but it makes me do very sad for me. The jealousy is awful and I feel so bad for that.
I don't really know why I'm posting this. I suppose I just want some advice about how to deal with the way I'm feeling. Sorry if I sound selfish.

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

You dont sound selfish at all! What you have been thrpugh is emotionally and physically difficult and seeing others have healthy pregnancies around you will be hard.

I have had one MC, at eleven weeks, and was off for arpund the same length of time as you. Physically I felt sore, emotionally sore, and just incredibly sad.

I became very practical about my situation and was able to console myself with the fact that the pregnancy was not viable and that it was simply what nature does when the pregnancy is not suitable.

Your friends may well have struggled with whether and what to tell you, and will no doubt be understanding of you finding them pregnant difficult.

Im sorry I have no practical advice other than to say you need to go easy on yourself.

wishing you all the best with your ttcing.

[Catlover2014]

Hi Fizzy I'm very sorry to hear what you've been through. One mc can take it's toll but two is just heart breaking.

It is very hard to cope with other people's blessings and the way you describe your feelings sounds very familiar to me (I've had two mcs after five years of infertility).

I'm told it does get better with time but it's very hard. Remember to go easy on yourself and stay positive, the liklihood is you'll have a happy and healthy pregnancy next time .

XXX

[DRSLondon]

You must not feel bad for those feelings. My friend just had her baby and we were due the same week. I thought I would have my baby by now. It's really hard not to feel jealous. It doesn't stop me feeling thrilled for her and relieved that her pregnancy worked out. It's totally understandable to be envious and frustrated. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Hopefully you will be pregnant again soon.
All the best xxx
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[longestlurkerever]

Fizzy - come and join us on the recurrent miscarriage support thread - I have just posted something similar over there and others have said they feel the same. It's terribly hard not to feel jealous. I try and remember that there is not a limited stock of babies and actually I want my baby, not their baby, but it doesn't always stave off the green-eyed monster.

[FizzyPinkWine]

Sorry, I've only just seen the replies. Thank you all for reassuring me that the way I'm feeling is ok! Will have a look at the recurrent miscarriage thread.