Think its happening again!!!

(14 Posts)
Lauren82000 Mon 16-Jun-14 08:59:46

Had an early mc at 5 weeks last month, got pregnant again and at extactly the same point as last time started spotting brown which has now progressed to a small amount of red/brown blood and clots, no cramps though. I'm still waiting for the results of the blood tests I had on Friday but I already know this one is a bust too. Not particularly sad just annoyed and disappointed that my body isn't working properly and knowing I'll have to go through this again before they will investigate is equally annoying. I want to know what's wrong with me now not after it happens again! I was so sure this one would stick, my symptoms were really strong, the lines on the test were much darker than last time and I had a good feeling about it all. But that went out the window when I started spotting and took my sore boobs with it. Only thing I'm left with is feeling a bit sick but that can easily be explained as anxiety.

The sad little look on hubby's face when I told him this morning we probably lost this one too was awful. I asked him if he wanted to wait this time before we tried again and he said will it make a difference? I told him no and he said well what's the point in waiting then. So at least we are on the same page when I stop bleeding and we can go back to our routine of every other day throughout the month. (which has so far worked for us I just can't seem to get past 5 weeks).

Can I push for tests after 2 or is it really only 3 mc before they refer you? I mean 2 mc in 2 months clearly indicate an issue right? I got pregnant with my daughter the first time no problem so my plumbing was working fine until then.

Bifauxnen Mon 16-Jun-14 09:11:28

I'm so sorry. hopefully someone more knowledgeable will be along in a minute as I don't know much. Just didn't want your first response to be a horrible and unsupportive one.
thanks

SeaSaltMill Mon 16-Jun-14 13:20:38

Sorry you are going through this. Have you spoken to EPU about it? It might not be a mc. But at the same time, it might be.

I begged my doctor for tests after my second MC but she refused. Its not NHS policy. You could get tests if you go private though.

Sorry x

Lauren82000 Mon 16-Jun-14 14:38:06

Well when I went to the walkin centre with my first mc, because it was before 6 weeks the EPU didn't want to know me. Was told to take a test in 2 weeks to see if I was still pregnant! The very nice nurse at the walkin centre took blood anyway and told me to see my gp. I bypassed the gp and made an appointment with the nurse for more blood and blagged it saying I thought thats what the nurse told me to do. Got me the extra bloods done to confirm declining levels so I didn't care.

Thanks for the advice, don't know if its a good thing or not but so far I just had that blood this morning, had nothing but a few tiny spots on my pad all day and been clear when I wipe every time I've been to the loo and my boobs are sore again. confused Even more confused than ever now.

loaderloader Tue 17-Jun-14 20:17:31

Lauren
I had a really similar experience when ttc DC2. Pregnancy after mc is tough. How are today?

Lauren82000 Tue 17-Jun-14 21:52:17

I'm ok I suppose. Had a massive barney with the hubby last night I sobbed for hours after I made him feel guilty for going out on his bike and then apologised while I sobbed and I think I just annoyed him in the end. He hates me crying as I don't do it often think maybe 6 times in the 11 years we have been together.
Still confused with what's going on with me this time. I have a bit of brown/red blood first thing in the morning and then just a tiny amount of light brown when I wipe during the day but nothing on my pad. Been like that for 2 days now this being the 4th day since I starting bleeding. Last time 2 days in I was practically gushing.
At least I had some more bloods done today so it will be confirmed either way tomorrow. I did another test before and the line was just as strong as it was last Thursday when I tested last. Would of thought it would be getting fainter by now. Plus my boobs are still sore and I'm having no cramping whatsoever. I keep thinking maybe it's just breakthrough bleeding like I had with my dd but I know it probably isn't and my body is just being weird.
Thanks for checking up on me though nice to know I'm not forgotten.

loaderloader Tue 17-Jun-14 22:14:21

I had a massive row with DH after first mc. But actually I barely knew how to feel about the loss myself so I can see how he'd get it wrong.
The constant checking, fears and hopes are a huge strain. Its not surprising you've been upset.
Uncertainty is awful. Glad you had bloods taken. I know you'll be expecting the worst so I'll keep my fingers crossed for you for tomorrow.

Bifauxnen Wed 18-Jun-14 12:15:16

Hope things went ok for you today. Have my fingers crossed for you.

Lauren82000 Thu 19-Jun-14 08:56:16

Would you believe it when I rang up for my blood results yesterday none of the doctors had commented on the results and the on call doctor doesn't work Wednesday afternoon so I'm on the list for a call back this morning. I can really see them doing that, seem as though the exact same thing happened last time and I ended up ringing them back myself.

Since I was only spotting I had some hope but last night the really abd cramps started along with bright red blood so this is definately a bust too don't really need the results to confirm it now. sad

One thing I was wondering has anyone else experienced the same thing as my first mc was different. (I guess they are like pregnancies in that sense that they are all different) I get a lot of blood in the loo when I have a wee but when I actually wipe its more a few streaks of blood in clear stuff (I want to say slime as its not like dc as its super stringy sorry its a bit tmi) last time there was just loads of blood in the loo and loads on my pad and on the tissue after wiping. This time not so much even in the loo & on pad. Then again last time I started bleeding properly on the 3rd day of spotting this time it was 5days of intermitent spotting before the gushing commenced. blush

If I finally get one of these buggers to stick and stay put I'll end up with a May baby at this rate and May is birthday heavy enough as it is!
I said to DH this morning that we still have loads of options but we have to go through this one more time before we get to try them. I was having a bit of a woe is me moment in the bathroom and said something like I'll try and grow us a good one next time. He told me not to think like that, so at least he doesn't blame me for being a dud. He's not much of a talker of feelings so its like pulling blood from a stone getting him to say what he thinks about it all. He only says as long as your alright thats all that matters.

So sorry that you are going through this. I had 4 early miscarriages at 6 weeks each time and I was told by my consultant to take a small dose of aspirin each day starting before I got pregnant. Next time was fine and I went on to have 4 healthy pregnancies, taking low dose aspirin each time.
Might be worth asking about this or even trying it yourself if you can take aspirin normally it wont have any bad effects

Lauren82000 Thu 19-Jun-14 17:15:46

Well it's been confirmed hcg was in the 400's on Friday now in the 200's. Think we're going to wait for me to have at least 1 period this time before we try again. sad

loaderloader Thu 19-Jun-14 22:46:40

Lauren very sorry to hear that. Its a miserable thing to go through.

Sharing my experience getting pregnant with DC2 as so similar. I miscarried twice at 6-7wks last year, conceiving on first go, no gap between pregnancies. I again conceived immediately a third time thinking I was going through the motions to get tests. I was convinced everything pointed to an underlying problem - but despite fears I didn't miscarry the third time.

It won't help right now but the odds are still very much in your favour for the next pregnancy to be OK.

Be very kind to yourself just now. Rest when you can. I found myself quite run down and an iron supplement seemed to help. I don't think there's much I can say that makes you feel better emotionally but thinking of you.

Lauren82000 Fri 20-Jun-14 16:13:35

Hey can anyone point me in the direction of stats and stuff about mc and getting pregnant after. My gp said it's just the same 1 in 5 that it always is even if you've had 2 in a row. Somehow it just doesn't sound right to me. Tbh my gp has been a bit shit on the old information front not a leaflet in sight anytime I've been and the only information I've been given is what I've asked about. So who knows what they left out. Wasn't even asked how I'm coping with it. Maybe it's just me but think they should be throwing info, leaflets and counselling at you. It is a service we pay for after all. On a plus note I'm using my time off wisely and have been painting the hallway with DH. Which has been a rather nice distraction and like my high school p.e teacher used to say excercise is good for period pains. ( yeah right! But at least the rest of me aches too so it keeps my mind off it)

Lilybensmum1 Fri 20-Jun-14 16:23:36

Lauren sorry to hear it's so devastating, after my mc I read a book by professor Regan and took her advice re diet, vitamins etc and found it really helped. Also Zeta West website brilliant she is a MW specialising in mc and sells vitamins for each stage of preg including conception.

I really benefitted from the advice and understood a lot more. If you put a search in amazon for professor Regan you should find her book, Zeta West you can google.

Good luck. thanks

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