Happy stories please!

(85 Posts)
Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 08:35:10

Thought some of the recent mc ladies might like to hear some positive stories so I'm starting this thread.

If you or someone you know got your happy ending please share on here.

I need something to keep me hoping and trying!!!

XXX

escorpion Mon 16-Jun-14 20:36:03

Catlover Well I have had 2MC about 6 months apart in 2013, am going to start ttc soon but going to a fertility specialist to see if we can rule anything out first or if they can give us any advice. I am so scared to begin trying again as I don´t want to go through another MC. I have thyroid issues and anaemia but not sure if they have anything to do with my losses. Both biopsies did not show anything unusual. I am not in the UK by the way which has made things difficult being away from family. Sending you all my hugs and positive vibes for all us gals wanting to be mummies x

s88 Mon 16-Jun-14 20:39:32

I had a mmc at 9 weeks last year . It was my second pregnancy as I have a dd.

It was by far the worst thing I have experienced in my life. nothing has crushed me like that did.

However, after about 3 months we decided to try again and caught straight away and now we have our beautiful ds !

whydoIhavetodoeverything Mon 16-Jun-14 20:58:27

When I was 36 I had a mmc, was absolutely devastated, 12 months later I had (naturally conceived) twins. Don't give up, I still grieve my little baby but you're still young in fertility terms x x

LairyPoppins Mon 16-Jun-14 21:01:55

1 ectopic, 5 mc's before 12 weeks.

Had fertility treatment and twins at 35 (2 boys)

Now at 39 am 33 weeks pregnant with DS3 (surprise baby)!

Very best of luck xxx

Catlover2014 Mon 16-Jun-14 21:11:15

Escopian, sorry to hear that sad I imagine it must be really hard living abroad. I hope they help you to get some answers. I believe thyroid can increase risk of mc so it may be worth checking that out with the doctors.

S88 why, I'm so happy you had good outcomes after the difficult times! These are stories the ttc girls need to hear so thank you for sharing smile

Lairy, I admire anyone who can pull themselves back and keep trying. Congrats on your second healthy pregnancy. I've considered IVF but I'm scared I won't cope if it fails. I know I have some time yet, just scared because so much time has gone by without any success.

Fingers crossed that all the ladies on here get there healthy pregnancies and babies soon.

Hugs to you all

XxX

forago Mon 16-Jun-14 21:19:09

hi cat lover, really feel for you, it is so hard when you're in the middle of it. I had a mc at 8 weeks with my first pg after over a year of trying and was gutted (was Christmas bloody eve). I then got pregnant about 4y later with my 9y old and have now got 3 dc.

My sister has been trying for about 3 years and had 3 mmc. she is now 25 weeks pregnant.

My good friend had her first DC the same time as me. she then spent 5y trying to have another one and had 4 mmc, she now also has 3dc!

hopefully you will be looking back like this in 10y time. they both credit steroid and aspirin treatment for their successful pgs.

forago Mon 16-Jun-14 21:20:06

4 months sorry not 4 years

scarletoconnor Mon 16-Jun-14 22:06:44

I had a mmc in 2010. I can't explain why but I knew from the second I got my bfp I was going to miscarry. I did at 7 weeks.

I then got pregnant with my gorgeous Ds who is now 2. I had a bleed lasting 3 days the day I got my bfp. I was so worried it would end in tears but at 8 weeks I saw my beautiful baby on a scan monitor and cried my eyes out.

I ended up reacting badly to pregnancy hormones and went into renal failure. Some doctors tried to make me have an abortion for medical reasons I refused.

I had a traumatic birth and ended up on ICU but my beautiful boy made it all worthwhile.

I got pregnant again before he was 1 but lost the baby quite late in the second trimester (On Christmas Day ) I later found out that the hospital had severely damaged my cervix through negligent treatment when I had ds. They didn't tell me at the time in case I sought damages.angry

I got pregnant again 2 months later. I had to have my cervix stitched to prevent late miscarriage again. I went into premature labour a couple of times and finally had my gorgeous dd at 39 weeks by c section.

Due to how much damage I received at the first hospital when I had ds at my uterus ruptured during 2nd labour I almost bled to death (I needed resuscitation )and I can't have any more dc but my 2 dc are my little miracles and I couldn't be happier.

When you're in the thick of the situation its awful you feel like It will never happen for you. It physically hurts to hear of others having babies, not because you're not happy for them because you are. It hurts because you never know if it will happen for you.

But Miscarriage is so common, so common in fact research suggests the miscarriage figures are much higher than currently recorded 1in4 because people miscarry before they realise they are pregnant.

Anyone who is going through mc and ttc atm I'm so sorry if It has happened to you. I wish you luck with the future. One fact I clung to was that most statistics show that most women (about 70%) go on to have a baby within 3-4 months of their original due date. That got me through the early days with my Ds and Dd.

Another story (not mine) I had one friend who ttc for 11 years then got pregnant with twins, decided to try again had 2 miscarriages thought it wouldn't happen again and then got pregnant again. She had her dc and got pregnant (surprise pregnancy) when her 3rd dc was about 5weeks old. She tried for 11 years then had 4 babies in 3 years grin

Miracle babies do happen otherwise there would be no posts on this thread

thedevilsavocado Mon 16-Jun-14 22:17:41

After having DD at age 33 I had a mmc at 9w then another at 11w which turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy. Had to wait a year before ttc then had another miscarriage at 8 weeks. Got pregnant again but had several episodes of heavy bleeding and scans showed two sacs but one was empty. Thankfully the other baby was born safely when I was 38 and is my much loved and hoped for DS, now 5. I will never forget what a sad time it was and never stop being grateful that I have my two DCs x

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 07:12:13

Thanks again ladies for sharing ur stories and congrats on your bambinos! I can't believe how much people have been through and I know the pain of losing a baby never goes away completely.

Feeling very emotional today at my two lost pregnancies and that I still can't start ttc until I get my blood test results. Really hope it's not too much longer, feels like I'm always waiting sad

XxX

I had 2 mmc in 2009 followed by a late loss of my darling boy in 2010. I was induced and had to deliver him. I thought my heart would never mend. Tests were done but it was found that we were just unlucky. No reason for losing him.
A few months later I found I was pregnant. I was obviously terrified about how it was going to go. I had lots of consultant appointments and extra scans to check baby.
A month early, after premature rupture of membranes. My beautiful dd was born, a year to the day after losing her brother. In fact, their times of birth were 10mins apart. I like to think she is a gift to us from her brother.
When it became apparent she was going to share his birthday, I was quite upset. This was his day. Now I think it is a good thing. It has turned a day destined to be filled with sadness into a celebration.
Dd1 has just this week become a big sister. Dd2 was born last week. She is just as feisty and gorgeous as her big sister. Time will tell if she will be as funny and cheeky too!
I finally feel my family is complete. I couldn't be happier.
Hang in there if you have suffered recurrent losses. It can happen my little snuggly baby and bouncing toddler are proof of that.

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 11:43:02

Drama, I have just shed a tear for your little boy sad

I'm so sorry for that awful loss and your two mmc as well. I can't imagine how hard that third pregnancy must have been but I'm so glad your DS was ok. And now you have another one too hehe smile

You have given me hope and fight again. Thank you so much for your kind words xxx

weegiemum Tue 17-Jun-14 11:51:27

Something else I'd like to say (at home today with 10yo dd2 with dental infection) is that really, the pain of miscarriage can fade. I grieved horribly after my first 2.

My dc are 14, 12 and 10, and my mc were before the eldest and in between the first two. I honestly feel no pain any more, just a bit of wistfulness when I think about it. And sometimes I don't think about it for weeks.

I can see it's harder if you don't have dc, and I don't presume to comment in that situation. But life has gone on for me.

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 16:29:56

Thanks Weegie, I hope you're right about the pain fading. Just found out about a colleague having become a dad this morning and had to sit and cry in the toilets at work.

Feel so sorry for my husband for choosing me when it turned out I didn't work. X

bakingtins Tue 17-Jun-14 18:02:09

Oi! less of that talk, catlover this is not your fault and I bet your DH would never think such a thing. The day I found out my little embies were perfect and it was definitely something wrong with me that meant I kept losing them was my lowest point. But it still wasn't "my fault" any more than it would be if my kidneys were faulty, or I had dodgy digestion or one leg shorter than the other. If there is something amiss,chances are there is also a treatment that can tip the balance in your favour. Chin up, look how many success stories you have in response to your post. No reason you won't have a happy ending of your own soon.

ruthsmumkath Tue 17-Jun-14 18:48:13

After 3mc (2 natural at 11 and 7 wks and one mmc at 11 weeks) - after aspirin and progesterone (aspirin until 36 wks and progesterone until 26 wks) I finally got my gorgeous dc4 2 weeks ago. I didn't believe I would get to finish my family and we are all so delighted with him!

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 22:39:44

Bakingtins, I know you're right and I am trying to see the bright side. Just a bleak day I suppose?! Cried my eyes out today and I don't want to feel this sad anymore.

Ruths, thanks for sharing. Sorry for your difficult and sad times but great you got your babies!! Asprin has been recommended if I get another BFP (already on progesterone) so watch this space smile

XxX

kaisak Wed 18-Jun-14 10:57:18

I promised myself that when I would have my baby safely in my arms, I would post to one of these blogs and support other women going through the same despair that I had to go through.

I had 2 miscarriages in a row before the birth of my gorgeous son, now 5 1/2 months old. I was reading online about success stories after each miscarriage and it really helped. There are so many women out there who have had 1 or 2 miscarriages in a row and a lucky 3rd pregnancy. Just keep on believing and it will happen. I know how hard it is, but don't give up trying because in the end you will succeed and having your own baby will be the best gift in the world.

Good luck to you Catlover smile

Trooperslane Wed 18-Jun-14 11:04:14

2 miscarriages in 7 months.

One on my birthday and the other Xmas Eve. confused

2 more years of trying - nothing.

2 years of ivf/icsi and dd the result.

Finally, my wee miracle is here.

Catlover2014 Wed 18-Jun-14 14:46:44

Kaisak, thanks so much for sharing your story. I can't believe what some of us women have to go through and I am sorry for the pain you must have felt. So glad you got your little bab in the end though. Hope to be posting a good story on here myself one day smile

Troopers, sounds like you went through a lot to get your baby. It must have been such a hard fight.

Do you mind me asking how many rounds of IVF you went through? I'm tempted to try IVF but I can't access it on NHS because I've mc'd and where I live they won't pay if you've conceived in last three years. The IVF road is so expensive and we're just not that well off.

XXX

Trooperslane Wed 18-Jun-14 20:18:08

No problem Cat.

We did 2 ivf and 2 icsi. Unexplained infertility. We went for icsi in the end because statistically we were likely to get an additional embryo, which from memory we did.

We got slightly better results each time until dd decided she'd like to grow in my tummy.

Coincidentally it was when I felt calmest and most in control that it worked. (Though it wrecks my head when people say relax, it'll happen then. Oh really - if only it were so feckin easy!!)

We paid for it all ourselves - I have NO idea where we got that money from - weird things happened like randomly getting an £1800 tax rebate and hitting bonus in work for the first time in years.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for all the ladies who've lost babies. It's nearly impossible to bear.

anotherbitofcake Wed 18-Jun-14 21:06:55

2 mc - one at 7 wks one at 5. Both early but I was devastated. I didn't realise how common mc was but I still felt like maybe there was something wrong with me. Didn't help that friends all around me got preg first time trying.
Now I have a gorgeous 5 mo. Third time lucky.
I wish miscarriage was talked about more.
To be fair my dr and hospital were lovely. They sent me for early scan third time round to see if a heartbeat was present and were v supportive.

Annietheacrobat Wed 18-Jun-14 21:18:28

Hi Cat

I had 3MCs between DD1 and DD2. All before 8 weeks. I was referred to local recurrent MC team. No cause identified (though didn't get to the stage of NK testing etc). Advised to take low dose aspirin until 12 weeks.

Took it with pregnancy 5. Big bleeds at 6+3 and 10 weeks. Immediately thought the worse but amazingly the pregnancy continued. I stopped the aspirin though.

DD2 will be 11 months tomorrow and is an absolute joy. I really didn't think I'd ever have another child.

Big thanks to all on the mosh pit thread who helped me through some really dark and scary days.

Catlover2014 Thu 19-Jun-14 07:02:10

Trooper, that must have been such a difficult time for you. I'm sorry that you had to go through so much but it clearly was worth it in the end!!!

Another, sorry for you losses but congrats on your baby. You're right people don't talk about it enough. Miscarriage and (even more so) infertility are subjects you're expected to be silent about. I've found that silence very hard, no one at work ever asks how I am anymore.

Annie, you had such a hard time sad Glad you got there in the end though. If I ever get another BFP I have to take aspirin. Just dread what I feel is the inevitable mc #3.

Thanks again all for sharing. I'm trying to think positive. Xxxx

Annietheacrobat Thu 19-Jun-14 08:50:51

Cat - I really hope you get your 'happy ending' too.

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