Happy stories please!

(85 Posts)
Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 08:35:10

Thought some of the recent mc ladies might like to hear some positive stories so I'm starting this thread.

If you or someone you know got your happy ending please share on here.

I need something to keep me hoping and trying!!!

XXX

LouisaJF Fri 13-Jun-14 08:41:08

I had a MMC at 11 weeks and my world fell apart. I knew the only way I would feel better was to get pregnant again despite friends and family telling me to give myself time.

Two months later I was pregnant again. I know have a two year old son and an 11 week old son and they are perfect. I still grieve for the little one I never had but I see it as the price I had to pay for my two perfect little boys.

Hope that helps x

greedygal Fri 13-Jun-14 08:49:59

After having tried for a 2nd DC for 11 months, I had a MMC at 11.5 weeks. Devastated and panicky because at 38 . . . tick tock tick tock.

I fell pregnant during my very next cycle and have my 2nd DC who is 20 months & my family is complete : )

All the best Xxx

TinyTear Fri 13-Jun-14 08:50:24

I have a semi happy story...

Had 3 MCs in 2010, but then the recurrent miscarriage tests at St Mary's came back normal, and then I had a successful pregnancy and have now a 2.4yo who is perfect in every way (yes, even the tantrums)

Semi happy because I have had 2 more mcs after having her so I am going for further investigations (NK cells) but I wonder if my body will only allow me to have a perfect child and I have my one...

bakingtins Fri 13-Jun-14 08:58:03

Currently nursing my 3 week old daughter, born after 4 MC in total and 3 in a row, it's mainly thanks to Mumsnet that I didn't lose the plot totally and that I accessed the treatment I needed to carry to term. I don't want to worry anyone, the vast majority of women who suffer a MC will be fine in their next pregnancy, but even for the 1% who recurrently miscarry, there is hope. smile

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 09:17:25

So good to hear happy stories!

Louisa, congrats on your two boys. So good to hear things can and do work out.

Tinytear, so sorry for all your losses. Please don't give up, you've had one healthy pregnancy so there is still lots of reasons to have hope.

Bakingtins, thanks so much for posting on here. You were on of the first people I spoke to on here after my second mc and I'm grateful to you for being kind.

Greedygal, I'm 34 and really worry time is running out but your happy story at 38 gives me a lot of hope!

Xxx

jerryfudd Fri 13-Jun-14 09:25:19

I suffered an ectopic with my first pregnancy and lost a tube also. Few years of trying and following tests referred for ivf. First try successful resulting in twins. When they were one I found out I was pregnant naturally. None went to 3 within 2 years!

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 09:54:19

Oh wow!!! Sounds like you have your hands full now then hehe. Congrats smile xxx

jerryfudd Fri 13-Jun-14 14:20:32

Thanks. Yes we do but wouldn't change it (although am done at 3)

I had four miscarriages before getting treatment (aspirin and clexane injections) which allowed me to go on to have two wonderful DSs. Other health issues mean that there will be no more, but I am forever grateful for my two boys. I know at times I found it hard to believe that this would ever be the case so hope this story helps - and good luck for the future!

RaisinGirls Fri 13-Jun-14 14:31:38

I suffered a MMC last April after trying to conceive for over three years. It's no exaggeration to say my life totally fell apart. I was 38 and felt I was too old to get pregnant again. However I am writing this now as I am feeding my six week old baby gringringrin. I worried throughout the pregnancy but she is a beautiful healthy happy baby girl. I still grieve for the baby I lost and I will never forget that baby and my little girl will always grow up knowing about her big brother or big sister. What I've learned is never to give up hope. Hope got me through some very dark days that and the TTC after MC thread

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 15:24:47

DWR, so lovely to hear you went on to have your babies! Must have been awful suffering so many mcs and I'm sorry for those loses. I'm so glad they could help you though. Did you see Prof Q?

Raisin, congrats on your baby girl. You must want to pinch yourself to make sure it's real after all you'd been through.

I've been on holiday for two weeks and have run out of tasks / money so think there's been too much time on my hands today. I want to keep hope that I'll get my baby but it's so very hard after 5 years of infertility and 2 mcs.

Thanks again lovely ladies for being kind. I'm so thankful I plucked up the courage to join this forum! X

Catlover, no I was seen at the Southern General in Glasgow

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:00:47

Ah too far for me to try from the midlands then hehe!

squizita Fri 13-Jun-14 21:09:12

Not quite at the end of the journey but at 27 weeks after recurrent MC, tests and treatment (clexane). A relatively simple solution after several years of sadness.
Hope those who read this thread either never get to testing as they'll succeed before, or experience the "yes we can fix that" moment.

crazyboots Fri 13-Jun-14 21:19:17

2 MMC, 3 gorgeous DC. Time is most definitely not running out at 34. My first pregnancy was at 35 and last at 41.

Good luck.

Rummikub Fri 13-Jun-14 21:24:44

I had a mmc at 13 weeks. Devastated doesnt describe it. I was lucky to be pregnant 4 months later. She is an absolute joy.

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:25:55

Squizita, that's great news! Well done on getting to 27 weeks!!! Do you mind sharing what the treatment is for and how the problem was found? I'm always pushing for more tests. My FC is fed up of me asking so many questions but hey ho smile

Crazyboots, thanks for sharing your story and congrats. Mine were mmcs too. So hard to get your head around isn't it?! I hope at 41 I have three babies too. So so broody at the moment.

XX

Best1sWest Fri 13-Jun-14 21:31:20

3 MMC after 4 years of TTC. On the due date of my first MMC I found out I was pregnant again and went on to have a healthy and beautiful DD followed by a DS after another 4 years of TTC.

crazyboots Fri 13-Jun-14 21:32:44

Oh Catlover you sound very lovely and any dc will be very lucky to have you as their mum!

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:36:03

Rummikub, sorry to hear of your mc but so glad you went on to have a baby smile

Your words "devastated doesn't even cover it" sums it up for me too. How did you get through that time? I'm doing my best to cope but after a holiday and short break from think about it I feel like I'm falling apart again. House just feels so empty with no dc.

After my first mc in January family and close friends sent flowers and really kept an eye on me but the second one has been met with total silence. I feel like people expect me to just get on with it even though it was only five weeks or so ago. I worry I'm not handling things as well as I should be. XX

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:39:27

Thanks Crazyboots! So many lovely ladies on here and I include you in that. Really appreciate women who've had dc coming on here and sharing their story.

Best, wow what a journey you've been on. I'm sorry for your lows but so thankful for your highs. Congrats on your two dc.

These stories do give me hope. I just have to stay positive! XX

squizita Fri 13-Jun-14 21:39:52

Hugh's syndrome... Apparently 1/3 of recurrent losses are caused by it... St Marys have the most sensitive equipment for tests.

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:42:24

Never heard of that, sorry there is so much I don't know.,Is that an autoimmune problem or a genetic problem? Is it a blood test? X

crazyboots Fri 13-Jun-14 21:43:55

Its very hard Catlover, you just have to be very kind to yourself and remember its not tangible to other people, unless they've been through it and an awful lot of people don't know what to say as everyone responds very differently. For example, I desperately didn't want to talk/discuss/acknowledge it with anyone until sometime after, I was so focused on getting pregnant again, both times fortunately I became pregnant within a couple of cycles. Anecdotally this seems to be time of fertility (had tried for a year before one of my MMC and then fell pregnant immediately after).

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