I had 3 mcs last year, all around 8 weeks. So when I got my BFP back in January this year, I was very anxious and worried it would happen again. Because of my history, I was very closely supervised and heavily medicated in this pregnancy - progesterone, aspirin, heparin, lots of scans.
The weeks went on, and it was so hard to not go mental - I had some spotting around 6-7 weeks, and a small bleed, at which point I thought it's all over again. But they saw a heartbeat at the 8-week scan, and the bean was measuring right according to my LMP.
The weeks went on, and it was all looking really well. I had lots of symptoms, awful ms etc., and I slowly and cautiously started to believe that this might actually happen. Got the maternity clothes out of the loft, discussed birth options with the consultant and started making plans about mat leave. Great 12-week scan, everything looking really good.
Then my blood results came back, giving me a high risk for Down's Syndrome (nuchal measurements all good, but very low Papp-A). I tried the Harmony test twice because I wanted to avoid an invasive procedure, but it failed, so we decided to have an amniocentesis.
I was so confident that the outcome would be good that I was not overly worried when the midwife couldn't find a heartbeat at my 16 week check (she assured me she had heard movements). Then went in last Monday for the amnio, but they never got round to it - there was no heartbeat anymore. They think the baby died around 2 weeks ago. I had the medical management on Thursday, I would have been 17 weeks.
And now I am trying to come to terms that there will be no baby in October. I will not be going on mat leave. I will not get to wear my mat clothes. We will not get to make any announcements that we had been holding off for so long. My little bump has disappeared, leaving just a flab that I now have to loose again.
I thought I was safe. I thought I had passed all the milestones with flying colours, leaving the awful first trimester behind. I thought that finally, I could start enjoying the pregnancy, and so did DH.
Yet again, I am left with nothing, all the plans just crumbled when the consultant scanned me, and there was no heartbeat.
It sounds childish, but I feel really cheated. Physically, I am fine, it was all straightforward, no complications. I know the ropes, I know it will get better - but all I want to do is to wail 'It's not fair, it was all going so well!' Right now, I can't find the strength or even motivation to believe that I will be able to climb out of this hole.
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I thought I was 'safe' - second trimester miscarriage
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