Miscarriage and found out I can't have anymore children

(10 Posts)
Divster Tue 29-Apr-14 12:34:46

I have 6 wonderful children, for that I am very grateful, but for the last 3 years we have been trying for another.

I have had lots of faint positive tests in this time, but then my period starts that day.

2 and half weeks ago I got a positive that was stronger than faint, and last Thursday got a lovely dark line.

Sunday late afternoon I started bleeding and lost a clot. Pains felt like early labour with pulling from underneath. Went doctors Monday morning and was referred to epu at 12. All that could be seen was a small area of fluid but it had nothing in it. This was near my cervix on my c section scar.

Then she said have you ever been told that you have fibriods, which I hadn't and hadn't been there nearly 4 years ago at my last c section.

She found 5 large fibroids, she thinks there may be more, but she said these were different as they were embedded and that my uterus was very bulky. She said there isn't really anywhere that a pregnancy could progress.

So yesterday I lost a much wanted child and that its not wise for me to even be trying to get pregnant. She has made my scan available for my gp to view, and said I need to go and discuss a care plan.

I have been suffering with pain, gushing and heaviness for quite some time, but put it down to that I have a prolapse.

I am not going to be able to have anymore children and pretty sure I need a hysterectomy, but I wanted another child, all that suffering from not taking pain relief just in case it was our lucky month. To now know that we were wasting our time. Knowing that I have just lost a child, that didn't even stand a chance.

Poughle Tue 29-Apr-14 12:37:16

I'm so sorry. So sorry you're going through this.

Armadale Tue 29-Apr-14 12:44:19

Divster, I am so sorry for your loss. thanks

And to find out about the fibroids must have been such a shock.

I have lost babies where when the genetics came back they never stood a chance and I find that very unfair and hard to get my head around.

I hope they can now get your pain and discomfort dealt with for you.

I don't know anything about fibroids but wonder if other procedures might be possible to try before a hysterectomy, and if they might give you another chance at TTC? Don't want to give you false hope, obviously, but might be worth seeking a second opinion.

For a few days I'd rest up and regroup a little (although I appreciate with 6 DC's this is not going to be easy). As well as the physical indignities I find the hormonal and emotional aspects of a MC take some time to deal with, even without adding on your other news.

Greyhound Tue 29-Apr-14 17:02:05

I'm sorry to hear that sad How sad for you.

Divster Thu 01-May-14 08:37:20

I went doctors yesterday and was given naproxen, going back this morning to see a gp about what to do and get a gyne referral.

I did a pregnancy test last night and it's a bit darker after being nearly negative at hospital on Monday, I don't think its a good sign is it? Epu want me to test on Monday to make sure its negative and to phone them with whatever result I get.

I am a bit worried about some of the stuff that was in the scan report, and as the pregnancy was on my c section scar its classed as a rare form of ectopic

Armadale Thu 01-May-14 10:13:05

Has the Naproxen helped you with the pain?

I hope the GP can answer some of your questions this morning...it does seem a bit like they have left you to it with some very worrying information about the ectopic etc.

If the GP isn't great, do you think perhaps you could phone the EPU again and explain that the line appears to be getting darker and ask their advice about it?

Divster Thu 01-May-14 21:14:38

I think the naproxen is helping now, been able to walk today without pain.

I haven't got a referral to gyne, it was a confusing appointment. Doctor was even saying that I shouldn't give up hope for this pregnancy just yet!

Basically, because I never go to the doctors about anything, its on record that I don't suffer enough to get a referral yet

Tranquilitybaby Thu 01-May-14 22:10:35

If the doctor is saying don't give up on this pregancy yet, I'd perhaps hold off the naproxen until you go back. Thinking of you x

Divster Fri 02-May-14 10:54:41

The pregnancy test last night looked darker again than the one the day before, why would that be? I have definitely lost it, I have passed too much 'stuff'

Tranquilitybaby Fri 02-May-14 11:16:39

I'd go to your local EPU and get some bloods done to check your levels. X

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