Feeling low today

(13 Posts)

Was at a music group this morning with DS, one of the other mums there has a DD the same age as mine, and its obvious today that she is pregnant. We have had a few weeks off over Easter so haven't seen her for a while, she wasn't showing before.
I guess she is about 4/5 months, which is what I would have been had I not m/c.
I don't know why it upset me so much.
We are TTC again at the moment and just in the tedious TWW so feeling hormonal.

Feeling sorry for myself sad

Trooperslane Fri 25-Apr-14 13:57:48

It's horrible confused.

Give yourself a hug xxxxxx

bonzo77 Fri 25-Apr-14 14:06:26

I've been exactly where you are. In the end I stayed away from toddler groups blush until I was pg again.

jimijack Fri 25-Apr-14 14:07:29

That's ok, really it is.

I felt that way a lot on & off jealous & hopeless & at times miserable.

Avoided pregnant people to save my sanity tbh.

Have a brew

Thanks all.
I have had brew and cake.

Once DS wakes up from his nap he will cheer me up.

I just want to be pregnant again.

JessCate Fri 25-Apr-14 14:59:34

Sending you hugs, cake and brew - I know how you feel, an old school friend of mine announced she was pregnant again this week. As happy as I am for her, when she had her first DD, we both fell pregnant at the same time and I m/c whereas she went on to have her DD.

Just makes me feel jealous and sad at times too, seeing her so happy.

Thanks jess
Its stupid to feel jealous, its happy news.

Just feeling so miserable today.

Katie6391 Fri 25-Apr-14 20:57:20

I know how you feel exactly

Have DD 2.10 and ttc at the mo for 4 months after mmc last august.

Seems like everyone I know is pg again and no one understands. Feel terrible for being jealous and keep thinking 'it's not fair'. Ugly feelings but can't help it. Glad cup of tea helped you xxx

marshmallowpies Fri 25-Apr-14 21:35:54

I had a cuddle with a friend's 7 week old today, last time I held her at 3 weeks I was still pregnant myself, my MC started a few days after that.

It was sad but lovely to have a little wee one snuggled up against me. I do love babies when they're tiny.

3 more friends from that same group having babies over the next few months. Mine was going to be November. It's going to be very strange and odd that they are all having 2014 babies and I won't be. Fx for a 2015 one instead...

bakingtins Sat 26-Apr-14 05:54:48

It's a real knife in the guts, and almost impossible to avoid if you move in mum and toddler circles unless you become a recluse. Jealousy and sadness at other pregnancies, particularly if they remind you where you should-have-been, is very normal and common, it doesn't make you a horrible person.
It has helped me a little to remind myself that they are not having my baby, and that babies are not rationed, their happiness does not make mine any less likely in the future. Best of luck with your 2ww.

sebsmummy1 Sat 26-Apr-14 06:35:30

Yep, feel the same but in my case the likelihood is I won't be able to get pregnant again due to my age.

I'm assuming you are in a better position than myself and have many child bearing years ahead of you. If so then try to console yourself with the likelihood that you WILL fall pregnant again. It's just a waiting game and in the meantime try and enjoy your son and enjoy the Summer that's just around the corner.

Plus it's ok to feel envious, totally understandable and normal. Hand holding xx

Thankyou all.
Its good to know I'm not alone in feeling this way.

sebsmummy I am 34 this year, so yes still time, but do feel like I am getting on a bit in terms of fertility.

I POAS this morning and BFN, so that's not helping.
Only 10 dpo though so perhaps a little optimistic!

Tranquilitybaby Thu 01-May-14 22:14:16

Feel for you, I've got this to come when my cousin gives birth in September and I should've been three months behind her. X

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