Missed/silent miscarriage. What to do now ?

(8 Posts)
Fromhappytosad123 Fri 21-Mar-14 15:34:07

Just found out today my baby has no heartbeat. Absolutely devastated. I'm 9 weeks yesterday but its estimated baby's heart stopped beating on Tuesday. Went for a private scan today as I'd noticed all my symptoms had gone and it was confirmed.

Has this happened to anyone else? What options did you take? As I don't know wether to wait for the foetus to pass naturally (which I was told can take weeks) or did you have surgery to remove the baby?
Just wanting to know people's experiences / advice on what to do now.
Thanks so much for any advice you can give me.

Gizmo2206 Fri 21-Mar-14 16:38:30

Hi so sorry to hear what has happened, I posted this morning as had a similar experience (went to 12 week scan, baby hadn't grown past 6 weeks) I have to wait a week and also keen to hear people's thoughts on the different options.

Sorry I am not giving any advice, but wanted to let you know that I had read your post and wanted to let you know that I'm here if you want to talk. Xx

healthyhippo Fri 21-Mar-14 16:56:31

Very sorry to hear this is happening to you sad
I had the same thing, booking a private scan at 10 weeks to find no HB. Went to see EPAC after but they just offered to rescan in a week, just to make sure and I naturally miscarried over that weekend. I wasn't offered any meds or op as it started naturally. It did take weeks to complete but the main event was done in a couple of days.
Take care.

manamana Fri 21-Mar-14 17:09:38

Sorry to hear that this is happening to you. I had a similar experience. Found out at the 12 week scan that the baby had died a couple of weeks earlier. I decided to take the surgical option and they did it a couple of days after my scan. For me it was the right choice, they suggested that as the natural process hadn't started so far I may have a long wait and I couldn't cope with that. Everyone at the hospital was very lovely, the procedure was straightforward and my recovery was very quick. EMotionally it felt like it was better to get the physical process over more quickly but it was incredibly hard when I was having the general anaesthetic and it all hit me a lot harder than I expected it to. I actually conceived again before I had another period and now have a healthy 2yo. It was very hard to be pregnant again so soon -my hormones were all over the place. But obviously now I wouldn't have it any other way. Happy to answer any more questions but won't be able to post until later as am away from internet now. Take care of yourself.

Fromhappytosad123 Fri 21-Mar-14 17:15:10

Thank you so much for your replies ladies.
It's really helping me. I'm so upset at the moment but the advice is so helpful. I've been reading alot on ERPC and I probably will go down that route if baby doesn't pass naturally this weekend (I have an appt on Monday to talk through options and what to do next)
Sorry for your losses. My thoughts are with you all. Such a cruel thing to go through. :,(

Take care of yourselves
Xx

Forester Fri 21-Mar-14 20:15:59

So sorry this has happened to you and Gismo. flowers

I've also had experience of MMC so can sympathise with what you are going through. I went for ERPC as it was the best for me. It also became easier to be able to focus on the emotional side of things once the physical MC was complete. But it's a very personal choice and there's no right or wrong.

There is a thread a little way down this forum that talks about the practicalities of MC's - which if you haven't both already read it is worth taking a look at.

Take care x

Virgo9 Sun 23-Mar-14 13:45:51

I am going through the same thing as you are. I went for my 12wk scan on thurs and was told my baby had died 4wks ago. I wish things had happened naturally a few weeks ago but it didn't I was given a choice of what to do next.

I've decided to go for surgery which is tomorrow, I don't think I can wait weeks for things to happen naturally.

I feel your pain and know exactly what you going through, it is a slight comfort to me that I am not alone, I hope it helps you too.

Tigerstar123 Sun 23-Mar-14 16:15:19

So sorry ladies for your losses.
I posted something similar to this about 10 days ago on pg thread-as couldn't find mc thread. There are lots of comments on that thread that may help you? I posted under 'delayed mc what do you choose and why'.
My experience is on that thread.
Sending you big hugs and lots of love. Xxx

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