annother miscarriage

[SpecialCircumstances]

I'm back again- after my last mc at 9 weeks in Feb now having annother at 6 weeks. That's 3 in a row and now every bugger I know is getting pregnant from my job share partner to 2 of the nct group I met with my son.
I'm just finding it so hard, do I keep trying or stop for a while? I'm not sure I'm even thinking about a baby at the moment I just want to have a successful pregnancy to 'get over'this run of mc if that makes any sense, but I'm not sure how many more I can stand or how I'd cope if we did make it. I'm just all over the place right now.

[Luckystar1]

I don't have any great advice I'm afraid, as I have 'only' had one miscarriage, but I just wanted to hand hold until someone infinitely more brilliant than I comes along.

I am so, so sorry for your loss, you are such a brave woman. Take time to grieve, and maybe, if you can, ask for some counselling. My thoughts are with you.

[MrsChocolateCupcake]

I am sorry to hear you are having to go threw this again.
In your question about giving up, That's up to you but now you have had 3 miscarriages you can be referred to the miscarriage team and be investigated. Just a thought.
Thinking about you and your partner at this sad time xx

[huftydufty]

So sorry specialcircumstances. I know how hard it is. I' going through my forth miscarriage. Though I suppose it would be classified as a "chemical" pregnancy as I was only 4+3 this time. It's my earliest. I had miscarriages at 10 and 9 weeks and them another at 5-6 weeks.

I've had all the tests but my bad "luck" is down to old age, which I fully understand is the risk when I ttc at my age, but it does not make the loss any easier.

Will you have some investigation done?

My doctor has told me after three miscarriages you still have a great chance of having a take home baby, so if you are up to it, keep trying. I am sure you know how difficult pregnancy is after miscarriage, so you know what to expect.

I know exactly what you mean about having a successful pregnancy in order to get over the bad run. I feel that way too. The healthy baby at the end would be a massive bonus too

I hate that so many women must go through this. It is awful. ((hugs))

[bakingtins]

special I'm so sorry, it is terribly unfair. I'd encourage you to come over to the RMC thread and at least consider asking to be referred for testing. It would mean a break from TTC for a few months while tests are completed, but that can be a healthy thing and allow you to feel a bit emotionally stronger. Something is found in the standard tests about half the time, if they draw a blank there are options to pursue further testing privately (immune issues etc not covered by NHS)
If you can bear to do it, I would try to save any clots/products from your current MC and insist they are genetically tested. It makes a big difference whether you are losing because of chromosome problems or losing normal embryos because of some issue with you.
Sending you I've been there and it's awful. I knew lots of women who'd had a single MC, it's horrible to feel like the only person who has been through it lots of times. Support from the RMC thread made a huge difference to me.

[RawCoconutMacaroon]

So sorry you are going through this. I had three later mc and an number (sounds awful, I lost count) of much earlier ones at under 6 weeks. Some got tested, and had unusual chromosome defects.
I was in my 40's so perhaps that's not so surprising but I was getting pregnant every second or third month, so clearly fertile.

I saw the "top" consultant in my area and he had a number of suggestions for me - go onto vit D3 supplements and 5mg folic acid (that's a very large dose), as you get older, or if you have certain conditions (autoimmune I think), your body can't metabolise folic acid or vit D as well, and both are needed for proper separation or chromosomes in the embryo directly after fertilisation, and also I was to take a mini aspirin daily from tiger day I got a positive preg test.

He said this was his routine advice to all his older ttc women, and that although he could test for certain blood factors, he felt it pointless as there are so many they can't test for. These supplements/medications are all anti inflammatory, and IMHO, work because many women have undiagnosed autoimmune conditions which develop as we get older.

My next preg was successful and is now 3years old. Subsequently I developed(or rather they got worse), several conditions with a strong autoimmune component including thyroid and joint problems. When I removed (all) grains from my diet (I follow a Paleo diet which is great for people with autoimmune issues).

Anyway, joining together the two halves of my experience, I'm going to suggest discussing the supplements and aspirin with your GP or consultant, but also dietary change... It can do absolutely no harm to go grain free (especially wheat and gluten free), and it may do some good. The Paleo/primal diet places huge emphasis on fresh, unprocessed foods with no chemical additives, and it is very low in inflammatory foods. For info, Marks Daily Apple blog is a great starting point. It has a searchable archive so you can find all the articles related to fertility, ttc easily. Wheatbelly blog is also interesting reading.

Good luck !

[RawCoconutMacaroon]

*the day, not tiger!