due date

(8 Posts)
StickEmUpBigStyle Wed 12-Mar-14 12:36:12

Hello

I am very much settled into the life of childfree now after we decided that we didn't want children at all. Long story...

However we could have been parents as we tried for a while and I had a miscarriage.

The due date was 06/03/2009, so I make it that a few days ago we might have had a 5 year old child.

As the years pass it almost melts away like it never happened, but usually I remember around the due date what could have been.

Just thinking out loud really.

Forester Wed 12-Mar-14 20:00:47

It sounds like you've found a good way to deal with how things have turned out - that for a short period of time each year you acknowledge what could have been but that you are not consumed with regret.

Zumbasmyfave Thu 13-Mar-14 21:45:52

Thinking of you and your little angel. Hope you arc able to talk to somebody about it.

Tomorrow (fri) would have been my due date so I'm feeling quite similar. What would have been? Seems everyone's pregnant and having babies riht now. I can't ever imagine forgetting the heartache.

I hope you've been able to treat yourself or something.. Hugs xxx

StickEmUpBigStyle Fri 14-Mar-14 17:52:17

Thanks both for reading and replying,

forester yes, as time goes on it drifts further away, but there will always be a place in my heart

zumba are you still trying? For me it's a bit easier because I was ambivalent anyway, but the 'might have been' will never go.
I hope 'due date friday' has been treating you well, too.

Hugs to any lurkers who feels the same. Xx

firsttimekat Tue 18-Mar-14 19:36:45

Hope you don't mind me joining in, my due date would have been yesterday and although me and DH took the day off together to reflect and mark it I'm really struggling today. I'm now 25 weeks pregnant and thought that would help but I'm not sure it does and no one else remembered, not sure I really expected them too but still feel a bit disheartened they didn't.

I'm struggling with every Mother's Day advert I see, thinking I should be a mother this time and I'm not.

I also had a really rubbish mw appointment today, I wanted to talk about feeling emotionally fragile but after waiting for 1.5hrs for my appointment (with no apology) I was rushed in and out in 2 mins flat.

Just wanted to vent and acknowledge how sad I feel. Sorry others are going through similar.

StickEmUpBigStyle Tue 18-Mar-14 20:14:03

Hello Kat,

By all means join in but your pregnant too smile so shortly you WILL be a mother. I hope that all goes well!

What else went on at the MW appt?

Stick x

firsttimekat Tue 18-Mar-14 22:08:51

Thanks. MW appointment was basic checks, urine, blood pressure etc and once that was all fine I was out the door. I know I should be pleased all is ok but she just wasn't interested in me iykwim. I'd also like to see the same person more than once but the only person so far is the receptionist who is lovely.

joosiewoosie Thu 20-Mar-14 09:45:58

Can I join you? My 2nd little bean would have been due tomorrow, and 2 days ago was the 6 month anniversary of the day we saw him/her in the way everyone dreads they might. It's been on my mind a lot more than I thought it would be, (if that doesn't sound heartless or crass?)

We are still trying for our DC - in fact I'm due to ovulate tomorrow, so I'm hoping that bubs we lost will send sound divine intervention our way this month! The whole TTC after mc has been harder than expected, especially in terms of the 2ww disappointment each month.

Redeeming features are -a) our gorgeous 20 month old little girl who is so funny and cheeky and. b) the tiny magnolia tree we planted in memory of Bubs now has 3 lovely flowers on it, just bloomed this week.

Sending hugs to all those finding it difficult at the moment, whatever the reason x

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