experience of 5 week miscarriage?

(19 Posts)
goosey123 Fri 07-Mar-14 17:52:10

I've had 2 miscarriages before but much further down the line. I will only be 5 weeks tomorrow but have feeling about to miscarry. I've had some brown discharge and having lots of period pains, it just feels very familiar. No pregnancy symptoms.

Anyway just in case it turns into full blown miscarriage, wondered what others experience was? I'm meant to be getting train up north tomorrow, going to a party, starting in a hotel. Might things be like a very heavy period at this stage?

Forester Fri 07-Mar-14 19:22:40

I'm sorry you may be going through this again.

I've had two MC's but both were MMC's so I can't directly answer your question but thought if I posted someone else may see it. I hope you get an answer.

healthyhippo Fri 07-Mar-14 20:35:01

Very sorry for you. I've also only had mmcs so not sure what it will be like for you. All mcs are different though but I don't think I would feel like staying away from home while it was happening sad
Take care.

BlueSkyandRain Fri 07-Mar-14 21:15:07

I'm sorry you're feeling like you might be about to mc goosey , and I very much hope you're wrong.
Just to share my experience, I had one at 6weeks, which tbh was like a heavy (&long) period and not much more painful than one, other than for a few hours leading up to passing the sac (around 24hrs after the bleeding started).
At the time I really wouldn't have wanted to be away from home or having to pretend I was ok or stand around for long periods of time. But a lot of it was fear and upset rather than actually not being physically up to it iyswim. I did need heavy duty pads - night/maternity ones not normal ones for a couple of days.
I'm also reasonably sure I had an earlier one (hadn't had a positive test but felt like I was and af unusually late) around 4.5 -5wks, which was much more like a horrible period & heavier than normal but not as bad.
Anyway, I don't want to lead you one way or the other in your decision, just to say that's my experience and I hope it turns out to be a false alarm in any case.
All the best x

goosey123 Sat 08-Mar-14 00:15:48

Thanks for responses. Fingers crossed no major bleeding so will take risk unless all changes. Both times before I've had at least 24 hours of light bleed before it went full blown, so I'm hoping I will have warning. But I do agree, the last time it happened I wouldn't have wanted to be away.

Maybe I should be a bit more positive! it just seems unbelievable that this might actually work out...

Youandme12 Sat 08-Mar-14 10:45:16

I have my fingers crossed for you! I'm going through the same thing at the moment sad but I still have hope. Don't give up yet xx

LegoCaltrops Sat 08-Mar-14 10:51:28

Like a really heavy period, very achey, felt very sick. Mine was more like 7 weeks though.

Hope you're ok. If it does happen, just try to rest until it's over. Maybe try a hot water bottle for the aching. And paracetamol.

resipsa Sat 08-Mar-14 15:29:04

Goosey - sorry to read what you've been through and what you fear is happening now. I had a m/c at 5 weeks 4 days in December and it was lighter than a normal period with cramps for about two hours but nothing unbearable. HTH.

goosey123 Sun 09-Mar-14 20:33:30

Well, I was right, and started bleeding on train up north... But to be fair it is only really like a light period. I'm not sure if this is it, or if I will have a much larger bleed. My last two miscarriages were at 10 and 16 weeks, so there was significantly more blood loss. Fingers crossed, from reading some of your replies, this doesn't always happen. At least I'm home now!

Jollyb Tue 11-Mar-14 17:51:55

Oh goosey hope you're ok. Two of my miscarriages were very early and they were barely heavier than a period. With the second I noticed a small berry like thing which I presume was the sac.

All is not definitely lost though. My heaviest bleeding was with one of my 2 successful pregnancies. I had a big bleed at 6+0 and was convinced I had MC'd again. Was so surprised that the pregnancy continued. Are you going to contact your EPU?

goosey123 Wed 12-Mar-14 06:59:06

Thanks Jollyb. I spoke to a GP, he just said to retest at end of the week. if negative and bleed stops, then don't need to do anything else. I am sure I have miscarried, despite small blood loss. I had a couple of symptoms last week, and now I feel completely normal. I will test just in case.

This is my third in a row, and I've been struggling to come to the decision to stop trying for dc3. In a strange way, miscarrying now has helped make the decision a bit easier, as I realise I really don't want to keep going through it (I'm 41 now, so imagine age is the main reason I keep miscarrying)..

just1moretime Fri 21-Mar-14 08:45:54

Goosey the same thing is happening to me. I'm pretty certain I'm miscarrying at 6 weeks and am just waiting for the ERPC to ring me to tell me to come in. I have had period like pains and bleeding for a day and last night passed something that was about 10p sized, which I presume was the sac. I was OK until then, but as soon as that happened, I felt really empty and sad. It's my first mc and also my third child. I'm also 40, so admire you for persevering. I'm really conflicted as to whether I want to try again.

calistamommy Fri 21-Mar-14 10:25:17

I had my 2nd misscarage 3 wks ago at 5wks 4 days. I started having period like pains a few days before then had brown discharge then about an hr later bright red blood this carried on and they thought I was having an ectopic pregnancy so they scanned me, no sign of baby on the scan but as it was early days they wernt surprised. they did an internal and my cervix was closed so I was sent home. 3 hrs later I passed the baby sac so went bk to the hospital where they scraped out some more " tissue". the bleeding carried on but got less and less for about two wks. now I'm empty and struggling to cope. I wish you hope & love in whatever you decide to do. ( hugs )

MabelMay Fri 21-Mar-14 21:47:24

So sorry you are going through this goosey. just, I was with you on the november antenatal thread and I just wanted to say, it's early days now, but don't give up. I'm 39, this will also (god willing) be my 3rd child. But I had two MCs last year - all I can say is, if you want that 3rd child - don't give up yet.
Hope you get through the next few days and weeks okay. I really suffered emotionally after my 2nd MC, and will always grieve my lost pregnancies.
Take care. xx

just1moretime Sat 22-Mar-14 08:45:38

My bleeding seems to have got less and less now. I had a blood test yesterday and have to go back on Sunday to see if my HCG levels have gone down. I'm dreading it happening again. I just feel too old for it

goosey123 Sat 22-Mar-14 20:11:01

hi just, sorry to read you're going through this. I hope bloods go OK tomorrow. This time I was just so desperate to know it was all over. GP just told me to do pregnancy test, which has been negative so I'm assuming it's all over.

I now have to make myself get a coil. It's been hard to make an active decision to stop trying. It has been a whole year between this miscarriage and last one. to be honest I had really got my head around stopping, and was looking at all the benefits of dc2 starting school next year. And then, by accident really, I got pregnant again. It has thrown me.

For me, I think my age is the biggest barrier. One of my miscarriages was in the second trimester, therefore quite public. I can't face putting myself at risk of that again. My head fully supports stopping. My heart still holds out for a 3rd child.

I do feel I can stop though, knowing we tried and it wasn't meant to be. that's a big help. I have not regretted those further miscarriages as in a way, it's helped me come to terms with not having any more.

just1moretime Sun 23-Mar-14 10:51:51

Goosey Yes that is my thinking. About 18 months ago, I really wanted a 3rd, but my DH wasnt keen to say the least, so I got my head round not having one, and looking on the bright side of having 2 DC's that were more independent and at school. This pregnancy was an accident, and tbh, I wasn't delighted, and was just worrying about the logistics and the effect on my DC's when this happened. Now I desperately want to get pregnant again. My DH is more open to the idea- I think he was surprised at how he felt about the 3rd baby. In my head, if it happens again, I'll admit defeat and accept I only have rubbish eggs left now sad

bluesquirrel Mon 24-Mar-14 21:40:02

Sorry to hear of everyones losses.

Just1moretime (don't know how to make bold on phone), I've had a similar experience. I knew i always wanted a third child, but it took several years to persuade DH. When we found out i was pg (happened very quickly), he was initially apprehensive and very worried, esp as he has a very stressful and hard job. And as our older DC are at school and more independent, he didn't really want to go back to the baby days. But when we found out about the recent mmc at nearly 12wks, i was surprised at how upset he was. Altho he doesn't really want to, he's agreed to ttc again one day when it's over, but i know if it happens again thatll be it, he def won't want to try again. I feel so anxious at the thought of maybe going thru this again...

just1moretime Tue 25-Mar-14 14:06:34

Im so sorry Blue I have 2 friends who have recently had MMC and it's the most terrible thing. Heres hoping for all of us flowers

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