Miscarrying now

(21 Posts)
broodylicious Thu 27-Feb-14 04:59:30

I had a little light blood when I wiped this lunchtime. Saw doc, felt reassured that some bleeding is quite normal. Tonight though, I've passed clots. humongous clots. Lots of them. I can only assume that one of them was our baby. Bathroom and my pjs look like they're from a murder scene. So scary.

Have my 12 week scan booked for 850 this morning - what timing! What should be a happy time is completely shit now. My mum and dad are coming over to look after our dd while we're at the hospital - told them a web of lies so they don't suspect a thing, which is exactly what we wanted - but I'm going to be so devastated to have to come back home and tell them we lied and now there's no baby either. Devastated.

I'm so sorry, I don't have any experience but just wanted to let you know someone is thinking of you.

LettertoHermioneGranger Thu 27-Feb-14 05:27:15

I'm sorry. I don't have experience or comfort to offer, it's an absolutely devastating situation and I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Procrastinating Thu 27-Feb-14 05:36:38

So sorry for you broody.
This happened to me too, brought back memories reading your post.

Whiteshoes Thu 27-Feb-14 05:41:28

I am so sorry. You're doing really well. (I couldn't handle the pain at all.) But, yes that sounds similar to my experience of bleeding. Just a tiny bit for almost 24 hours and then an unmistakable miscarriage.

You need to be really kind to yourself to get through this horrid bit. And then I found it quite up and down afterwards. I found I wanted to dismiss the gravity of it immediately, but it is a bereavement, and needs to be mourned.

It's very hard that your 12 week scan is today. Very hard. Not sure if you can get any sleep before then, but try to rest at least.

broodylicious Thu 27-Feb-14 06:40:55

Thanks all. As if to add serious injury to insult, just hopped on Facebook and at the top of the news feed? Yeah, my friend has just announced the birth of her baby! It's not her fault and I'm happy for her, I really am, she's lovely, but me, what timing....

I'm sorry to hear that. I heard from a friend that she had given birth on the day I miscarried.
Not her fault, and I wanted to know, but still upsetting.

2beornot Thu 27-Feb-14 07:07:13

broody I'm sorry you are having to go through this. Don't worry about you parents-could you warn them beforehand so they can take your daughter somewhere. If not I found the phrase "I've just had the scan and it wasn't good news" to be easy enough to say but got the message across. Look after yourself x

broodylicious Thu 27-Feb-14 07:40:22

Hiya chicken, I remember you from the September board. Hope you're doing ok?

I'm going to tell mum and dad when they get here in a few minutes. I look dreadful, am shaking and feel dizzy (good job I'm going to hospital anyway) so they'll know something is wrong. Only issue is that I don't want them to be sad for the duration we are out/they're looking after dd. They will be, I know they will, but I don't want it to effect dd.

Can I ask how much blood you guys lost? I seem to be dripping it.

ElBombero Thu 27-Feb-14 07:43:57

Broody if I was you, can your parents try and get here sooner? Just get it hospital ASAP if your still 'dripping' it sounds abit worrying... Xxbrewthanks

Merrilymerrilymerrily Thu 27-Feb-14 08:02:08

So sorry to hear. I had the same thing happen. There was lots of bleeding, I (TMI) could feel it gushing out. It is a sad and scary time, be good to yourself and you will need lots of rest over the next week. X

lucidlady Thu 27-Feb-14 08:03:38

Broody I had a MC at roughly this stage back in July and I understand just how completely horrendous and terrifying it is to go through this. I think you should tell your parents - you will need the support and they will want to help. Plus if they know, they can be better prepared to keep your DD entertained and give you a bit of breathing space. Please be gentle with yourself, this is such an awfully cruel thing to happen and you need to be kind to yourself so that you can start to deal with it. Thinking of you and sending hugs xx

lucidlady Thu 27-Feb-14 08:04:49

I also lost a lot of blood. I ended up tucking one of DD's nappies into my knickers as pads just weren't able to cope.

ElBombero Thu 27-Feb-14 11:04:10

Thinking of you thanks

DontWannaBeObamasElf Fri 28-Feb-14 12:29:58

I'm so sorry, Broody. How are you today? Did your daughter have a good day with your parents?

I can't comment on the bleeding as I had a D&C after a MMC.

GailLondon Fri 28-Feb-14 12:48:08

So sorry to hear your news. I have also just had a misscarriage last week, also 1 day before my supposed 12 week scan.
As for the bleeding, there was a lot for the first 3 days then a few days like a period easing off, I'm on the 6th day now and there is hardly any blood n the tissue paper.
Hope you can get some rest when you get home
Big hugs x

How are you today broody?
I bled for about 10 days in total, about a week after the loss of the sac.

I am doing ok thanks, a bit of confusion at the moment as I have had a BFP but also some bleeding! Just a waiting game at the moment.

broodylicious Fri 28-Feb-14 16:51:00

Thanks all for your messages. I'm doing ok, bit of a sore tummy but the bleeding is easing off. Although that may be that I've lay/sat down pretty much the whole day. Dh has taken out dd this morning and for lunch, bought her back for her nap, then out again for a play on the park this afternoon so I've been able to rest and just blub away to my hearts content.

My parents had such a lovely time with dd while we were at the hospital yesterday. It was the longest they've had her since she was born nearly two years ago, so that was a really good positive to come out of it.

chicken hoping your bfp sticks. Bleeding could be implantation maybe. Let me know xx

DontWannaBeObamasElf Fri 28-Feb-14 17:26:22

Chicken I had 3 days of bleeding at 5 and 6 weeks. BabyElf is 15 months old.

Glad you are feeling ok. Such a crappy time. I found having my DS helped.

Thanks for the positive thoughts. I have a thread Here that I am updating.

broodylicious Sat 01-Mar-14 13:22:39

Dd is definitely helping me too - she's such a cheerful little lady and brings smiles to even the grumpiest of faces. She knows mummy is very sad though and is incredibly clingy to me, plenty of cuddles and kisses for me. Love her so much envyenvy

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