We recently lost our baby boy at 20 weeks. We made sure we explained this as best we could (based on the advice of the bereavement midwife at the hospital) to our 2.9 year old DD. We explained that the baby had died in Mummies tummy and that we wouldn't be having a baby to bring home.
DD has asked limited questions and DH and I don't know how much more to tell her. She doesn't know that the baby was a boy or that we named him. We are due to have him cremated this week and I wondered if it would be a nice gesture for DD to do a picture or give something for her baby brother. If we address this with her though, will this cause more confusion.
Really just looking for some advice, maybe from people who have had past experience of this. DD is very 'switched on' and I feel she would understand a lot more than we are sharing with her. I understand that everyone's situation is different but I just feel so confused and don't want to keep things from her. Our DS will always be a part of our lives and should therefore be part of hers too?
Thanks in advance for your replies.
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How much/little to involve/talk to toddler about loss of baby at 20 weeks.
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AllTerrainMammy · 22/02/2014 16:52
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