Bit of background for you first,
MIL before we got married when ever drunk (Quite a lot of the time) on my visits (We live in Dorset PIL's live in london, hubby works in london too) would always say too me that once we are married we shouldn't rush into having babies and we 'must wait' etc etc, This use to really get on my nerves, as her other 2 children are both unmarried and have children so no idea why we had to wait!..
Anyways as it happens I fell pregnant pretty soon after the wedding, not planned as such we were trying but I have PCOS and had been having unprotected sex for 3 years so honestly believed we would be going down the IVF route, I found some Vitamin B6 tablets and began taking them and within a few month's I was pregnant with J (Lost at 19 weeks) She was over the moon when we told her and even went out and brought baby grows pretty much straight away.
So here is the bit that's bothering me :
Since we lost J I have really seen them in a new light, They did come and attend his cremation, but not once has his mum sent me a message on FB asking how we are, I know she does when she occasionally phone's my H.. H had a few weeks off work understandably they were fantastic told him to take as much time as he needs and only come back when he's ready and they will sort it all out when he came back, so he took over a month off, It was more for me to be honest, he was my rock, but in the last 2 weeks of the leave his dad and mum would constantly bother him about when he's going back to work. My H is a prison officer and I was so worried he would go back to soon and a prisoner would do something and he would loose it as such..
I don't know if it's just because I have such supportive parents and mine were absolutely devastated for us, My dad even tho he's retired still helps out at work and even he had to take time off from work.
My mum phone's me daily too check how I am doing, If I need to talk or anything, how my H is etc etc, His parents don't seem too offer him any support at all.
(My parents live in Cornwall so can only really phone etc)
I don't need answers as such but feels so much better for writing it all down!
Thanks for letting me rant!
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MrsChocolateCupcake · 29/01/2014 18:54
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