Just wanted to voice a few things about my miscarriage that I don't feel I can do elsewhere. I thought I was 15 weeks pregnant and going for first scan. My DH was very excited but we were told the embryo had died at 8 weeks. I didn't really feel anything at first even though I cried and DH cried too and I thought by that afternoon I was over it and I would move on and try again... Oh no.
Because I went for a scan in a different primary care trust, the PCT I am registered with required another scan before I had a D&C. I had the scan and they agreed there was no heartbeat but they told me they would have to scan again in a week as I could be lying about my LMP and trying to get an abortion "through the wrong channels."
So I walked around with all this inside me for a few days until two days before the second scan I started bleeding. At first it was like a period but then it turned into proper contractions and heavy clots. The bathroom was like a murder scene, I could just not contain the blood as it was coming out. In the time between finishing one pad and reaching to put another one on there was blood all over the floor, on my hands, I was reaching for the tap to wash it off then it was smeared all over the basin.
DH was asleep and just did not understand. By the early morning I couldn't stand up without passing out and so called the doctor. He said you need an ambulance straight away. I refused at first then he said how else are you going to get to the hospital? So we called an ambulance and it was so humiliating. I had to walk out of the front of our house with blood all down my legs and all the neighbors were watching.
In hospital they basically said the gestational sac had become stuck and needed to be pulled out immediately. It hurt so much because they used the speculum and the pincers to open my cervix and pull all this stuff out. There were two of them shouting RELAX RELAX but I just couldn't it was painful and just so sensitive.
After this happened and I passed more clots and a little placenta I was inconsolable. It's so weird and I don't know why. While I was pregnant I was quite indifferent. It was the first time I my life I had ever been pregnant so didn't really understand, but when I saw what my body had done, what it had made, what it could have been, it felt devastating.
I've been ill afterwards... Terrible thrush, coughs, colds, crying all the time. I seriously do not know what is wrong with me. I also feel embarrassed. All the neighbors saw me with blood running down my legs, the few people who knew are very sorry but I just find how sorry they are very embarrassing.
I have had a lot of health problems in life and when I was pregnant I thought my body was finally functioning, finally doing something right - but turns out it wasn't.
I'd be interested in hearing from anyone with similar experiences or someone who can tell me I will normalize eventually.
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Just want to talk about my miscarriage
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Hedgehead · 02/01/2014 21:04
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