It never goes away does it?

[PicaK]

I'm incredibly fortunate in many ways - I know that and am properly grateful for everything I have including my DS.

But I still want the 3 babies I lost.

And my last mc was 15 months ago.

Do I ever get back to normal?

[stargirl1701]

I think that it is different for everyone. I lost my Mum 2 years before I had my first mc. I would say that loss is more enduring for me.

I don't think you can quantify grief. Thinking of you.

[jimijack]

No it doesn't.

I've had 7.
Devastating, all of them.
I have my 2 boys now and feel less traumatised.
Never goes though.

[christmasnamechange]

Lost my pfb 11 years ago he lived for 3 mins 16 seconds in my arms and I still feel his weight. It still hits be like a freight train. So no I wouldn't say it gets easier more a case of you get more used to the pain of it the loss but the loss doesn't go away

I'm truly sorry for your loss op and everyone's loss

[Bakingtins]

I don't think it does go away, and you can't be the same person as you were before. It should get easier to live with and less of a burden as time passes though. If you feel you've got stuck with the grief maybe some counselling would be worth considering?

[PicaK]

Thanks everyone. I have moved on (had amazing counselling both times which helped so much). Just the wounds got ripped open last night by argument with family member. Definitely heal faster these days.