It never goes away does it?

(7 Posts)
PicaK Tue 10-Dec-13 19:44:25

I'm incredibly fortunate in many ways - I know that and am properly grateful for everything I have including my DS.

But I still want the 3 babies I lost.

And my last mc was 15 months ago.

Do I ever get back to normal?

stargirl1701 Tue 10-Dec-13 19:47:19

I think that it is different for everyone. I lost my Mum 2 years before I had my first mc. I would say that loss is more enduring for me.

I don't think you can quantify grief. Thinking of you. thanks

jimijack Tue 10-Dec-13 19:51:09

No it doesn't.

I've had 7.
Devastating, all of them.
I have my 2 boys now and feel less traumatised.
Never goes though.

Lost my pfb 11 years ago he lived for 3 mins 16 seconds in my arms and I still feel his weight. It still hits be like a freight train. So no I wouldn't say it gets easier more a case of you get more used to the pain of it the loss but the loss doesn't go away

I'm truly sorry for your loss op and everyone's loss

Bakingtins Wed 11-Dec-13 07:25:34

I don't think it does go away, and you can't be the same person as you were before. It should get easier to live with and less of a burden as time passes though. If you feel you've got stuck with the grief maybe some counselling would be worth considering?

PicaK Wed 11-Dec-13 17:02:29

Thanks everyone. I have moved on (had amazing counselling both times which helped so much). Just the wounds got ripped open last night by argument with family member. Definitely heal faster these days.

katatonic Wed 11-Dec-13 18:38:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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